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Morning, how are you today? Well have you done one, I know it’s something I have to do. I have been a little apprehensive about doing one. Mainly because when I was in the scouts at St Andrews church Blackburn. There were many times we would go and be given a pen and paper to write down the things we would like to do. The trouble with that was that, we only ever wrote a list, we never actually did the things that were on the list. Obviously if you had asked me to write a list in January this year. There would only have been 1 entry. I think you can guess what that entry would be.
The point is though that the only person standing in the way of your happiness, your dream, your ambition is YOU. We can spend our time blaming situations, other people. The things people say that make you feel so negative, the things people do that are not the standard that we want to attain to. Those things are choices that others have made. Why should your life be dictated by another’s Wants and dislikes, how is that right that our list contains bullet points that mean you want to change another person.
Life is about accepting people for who they are, and walking away from negativity. Not allowing negativity to take hold of you. Saying yes, taking control of your own Destiny not allowing it to be redirected by another’s opinion. Believe in yourself, and keep close those people that have a positive influence on your life. The people that truly love you will walk with you, no matter what!
Me and Andie feel a bit lost at the moment as our focus has to change, our goals have shifted and to be quite honest I don’t know what the new ones will be. What I do know is that it will involve encouraging others, that maybe involved with cancer. The last months and years have changed us, the big house in the country is no longer on the list. Health is the new house in the country. Smiling, laughing, friends, love, passion, family, and compassion.
Some might say that cancer has taken our dream, I say our dream has changed because of cancer. These are the things that are on my list now, not a parachute jump or a ride on a Segway. Morning is where it’s at for me right now, just waking up will do me quite nicely thank you. Whilst awake I aim to encourage people with my blogs, and giving myself the best chance at being cancer free, that’s where it’s at for me right now. I am sure while me and Andie have our holiday which is soon we will add some things to that list. But there is one thing that we WILL do on holiday, we both have wanted to do all our lives. It’s more of an ambition though. I will post when that day arrives.
It’s with anticipation we think about the future, clouded by the possibility of a return of the dreaded, that just involves cation, I try not to think about that though and try to concentrate on enjoying each day, that we have been given together. I hope you do to. As we start to live again as apposed to having cancer to beat. I hope you are with us on our new journey to.
Have a great bank holiday Monday.
Mark
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My dad died after a long battle with cancer he was a god loving man who had worked hard all his life and towards the end whilst i was there he tried to get up on his knee in his bed and pray, he said, ” help me god” he meant every word after that every one said he must be in pain Doctors too but he wasnt he sat up in bed and greeted me with a smile every time and he past away peacefully. There is a better world i told him.
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Your dad sounded like a beautiful person. Someone who was a role model. I am glad you have such a deep respect for the man that was you father. You tell it well x
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I have many friends who have bucket lists and are determined to finish them. I understand why so many people have them as there is a lot that one wants to do.
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What a wonderful world we live in …
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I’ve never felt a need for a bucket list, but I understand the desire to complete one’s life mission. Whatever that may be. Good luck and a blessed holiday.
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Thank you very much. We can’t wait x
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