Build your dream.

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dream, faith, purpose

No one can stop you from having a dream, no one can stop you from setting any goal you want to set. The man that does, WILL have hardship, that man will have a stumbling blocks placed before him. Of course those that do not do are no threat to the world, so guess what,you are more likely to have an easier ride than the man that does. You see in life, there will not be great things done, unless you think great. Right at the start of Cancer for me, which lets face it is. (Life) but did not cancer happen so that men might have life.. Really it’s true, God uses weakness. He will not use strength unless that strength has been learnt through humility, humility comes from weakness. Your purpose is greater than your pain.

  
In my life, a life I have chosen to have. I dare to dream and by faith believe that that dream will happen. Every dream I have involves people being blessed, I hope for love and healing for people that suffer. It’s not just cancer sufferers I  hope will be blessed, and even healed. You have a right to dream, and the dream can be as big as you like. But seriously, how can any man make a dream come true if he has no dream. 

  
 Who ever you are, what ever you face you can. Only the thoughts in your mind restrict you,  but believing by faith can bring all your dreams to fruition and much more. I share how I feel and the struggles I face daily, so that you can know that it’s normal to feel low, it’s normal to lose hope because of your situation. It’s normal to have a dip in your life, your day or week. I can choose to live a life  where I dare to dream, or a life where I fight for everything. What was it I dreamt at the beginning of this blog. Oh yea that’s right, beating cancer. I dreamt, the war is won. You CAN win yours to, but for you to build on that you have to have a dream. I cannot wait yo hear your stories.

Have a great day

Fonz

http://www.fonzandcancer.com

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Cancer stories (people helping people through experience) 

It’s a group where people’s experiences are used to encourage others. 

Everything you read are based on my own experience and my own opinions. I express them here to encourage you. Please share with others, if it meant something to you it will to someone else. All images are from a Google search. Or my own.

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We is the me with a w.

It makes me wonder sometimes what does the w stand for though. When you look into this small word your realise that actually this word is everything that your life is. It is nothing to do with what your life is not.  I mean what is me, it’s singular, it’s just one person meaning nothing apart from yourself, alone. Yet add the word ‘with’ it becomes we. I am going to attempt to explain how I feel right now.  After all a year in the cancer journey I have and am undergoing right now. People don’t understand, only people that have had cancer really can relate to it. So here we go, this is my way of describing what  I/we have faced and face even now.

  
Ever felt so low you think you will never come back… That’s how I feel right now, I don’t feel able to pick myself up. Just feel like I am in this massive ball of depression. I had been expecting it, now I feel defeated like I have no more left to give. It’s a strange feeling, a weightless feeling, one that seems to not value life any more. You think all the mountains have been climbed but now I am faced with a mountain to big to climb. The shadow is to dark. To wide. I must now wait until I have the strength to carry on… I feel so empty, I don’t know why. All I know is my strength has been used, the tank went to empty, I played petrol station bingo, I carried on with no fuel. Now I feel ruined, broken beyond comprehension. Maybe the love we have together is futile apart, worthless without each other. I have not the power of us, the power of we. How can I be without a we. We is the me with a w.

  
Then you wonder why your mind is doing this, you knew it would come. It’s not that your weak, although you feel it for sure. It is far deeper than that, it’s despair, anger, and for sure a feeling of defeat. You may not understand how much it takes to beat cancer, how much of you gets used. How much of the person caring for you gets used, this next picture is for sure how it feels in picture form for a person that carries on with the challenge.

  
This my wife as she turns her back on the sand being whipped up by the wind. We wanted to turn back, but we would not get the photograph of the sea that we wanted if we did, so we walked forwards backwards. This was the result of our efforts.

  

We don’t know what is beyond the horizon, all WE can do is trust that our strength will be renewed. Maybe it’s when we stop and take stock that the truth of where we are at but also what we have achieved together becomes apparent. I lost £240 today in a bundle which I had been keeping for us to do something together with this weekend. To say that I am devastated is an understatement. It’s like I have been hit with a shovel at my lowest, life can be so cruel sometimes. So now we find ourselves house bound on that weekend off. Of course we will make the best of it, but sometimes you just have to not fight against the wind blowing in your face and just go with it. Sometimes life hands us a hand that’s unfair, but you just know that sunshine is somewhere, I believe that the people in the world that get the roughest ride are the people that STAND and make a differance.
   
   
So tomorrow, I will stand. We WILL be together and we will have ridden out the storm together. Because WE are stronger than ME.

Have a great day

Fonz

http://www.fonzandcancer.com

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Cancer stories (people helping people through experience) 

It’s a group where people’s experiences are used to encourage others. 

Everything you read are based on my own experience and my own opinions. I express them here to encourage you. Please share with others, if it meant something to you it will to someone else. All images are from a Google search. Or my own.

It’s taken Dedication.

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cancer, giving, healthy, love, pain, passion, time, together

It’s a tough old challenge to make happen some times, I set it for myself. To blog everyday for 365 days straight, I am still on target although I am having a bit of a break this weekend. I hope you don’t mind, but my wife has the weekend off so I am going to spend it with her. We are going to hold hands, walk, talk, eat, and generally enjoy spending time together.

I think it’s vital to make sure that my marriage remains healthy. It’s all very well taking on a challenge that huge. But Andie is my world and not to be neglected.  She got her last management feedback last nigh before entering into the executive world. I could not be more proud. That lady has helped me though cancer in a year and maintained an impeccable record working full time. Now there is one amazing girl. I am incredibly proud of her, and whilst she won’t like me putting it out there, it won’t change that I am proud of her.

  
It’s time for us now and I am gonna enjoy it, it’s rare she has time off call, faithy is coming to. I will take some pictures today and no doubt blog about where we have been and what we have done later. Until then, have a great day everyone. Don’t forget the people that love is in our daily lives, they are after all the people we have chosen to love forever. Whilst I love blogging, and all you bloggers that have decided I am value enough for you to follow. We all have lives and people that we need to give to in the physical. 

Have a great day

Fonz

  http://www.fonzandcancer.com

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Email – fonzicloud@icloud.com

Our support group on our FB

Cancer stories (people helping people through experience) 

It’s a group where people’s experiences are used to encourage others. 

Everything you read are based on my own experience and my own opinions. I express them here to encourage you. Please share with others, if it meant something to you it will to someone else. All images are from a Google search. Or my own.

THE DOORS

Although this blog is 8 months old I thought It went well with today’s, showing how I have had to maintain the same spirit all the way through.

fonzandcancer blogging to encourage.

The doors.

I want to talk to you about what it takes to even be accepted for a bone marrow transplant. Not the ordeal itself but what needs to be achieved to make it happen.

Obviously as you all know I had ABVD chemo to save my life in 2011 being weeks or months from being compromised by death.

The hardest thing to do in life is to step into the unexpected, to walk through the doors. I was on holiday in October last year with my men, the silverback tribe as Skyman calls it, started by the man that’s half man. If he reads it he will know.

1 memory was Christmas Eve last year, having to walk through the doors of the day theatre, my mind had left me as I put the rather fetching socks on and I lost all control. I had gotten to the doors…

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1 step, 1 punch, 1 round at a time.

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creed, determination, faith, fight, hope, love, rocky

1 step, 1 punch, 1 round at a time.
Advice I most definitely would dispatch to anyone fighting cancer, don’t look to far ahead, look at the hear and now and getting through that. Because in my mind, that’s all someone can do when the odds don’t seem in your favour. My favourite films are the Rocky films, I must have watched them a thousand times. During my hospital stay, having my transplant. I would say (the wife gave the statistics to me, she was there to) I watched rocky 3 and 4 over and over for 4 10 days straight. 

For me anyway it was always about getting through those impossible minutes. Gaining victory every minute, because I realised early on that a second was possible in that room, but a minutia was not. But I could string 60 seconds together to make an impossible minute. And string 60 of those together to make an hour eventually 20 days later I was on the way home. 

  
You see the only thing getting in the way of you and cancer, is you. You are the only way to beat cancer, even if you are terminal ( which we all are) it’s your willingness to fight that stands between you and a smile. You choose to sit where you do and wallow. You also choose to use what’s available to you and make something happen. Even if it is a walk in the garden, and I know how hard a walk in the garden can be. 

  
Photographs of your garden, listening to the conversation that is the planet is in your hands, and choices. Choose to fight every second to get to the end and here those words. The words you crave to hear, make a difference with your life. It’s yours after all, we will all die one day. Don’t feel sorry that will happen, feel amazing you had and have a life to live today!
So we have just finished watching Creed, I feel amazing that I am in my 48th year really amazed we got here, I have my wife and the power that’s in the name of Jesus to thank for that. Because that is where my strength came from. Choose to fight, 1 step at a time.
Fonz 
http://www.fonzandcancer.com

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Cancer stories (people helping people through experience) 

It’s a group where people’s experiences are used to encourage others. 

Everything you read are based on my own experience and my own opinions. I express them here to encourage you. Please share with others, if it meant something to you it will to someone else. All images are from a Google search. Or my own.

A poem. ( author undisclosed )

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poem

There once was a man called Mark,

Who took his dog for long walks in the park,

His wife needed feeding, his dog mimics breeding and his blogs set on fire from a spark. 

200

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achievment, cancer, commitment, dips, encouragement, followed, followers, troughs

I write this on the 28th of January. On January 1 st  of January I set a goal to get better at writing and hoped 200 people would follow my blog. 27 days ago..

  
I am stoked, thanks so much to you all. Each and every one. I got this the other day to.

  
Seems people must like what they read. So I will keep on towards my goal of 365 blogs in 365 days. Then my next goal will be 1,000,000 likes after that. Thanks for being there and making my day folks…..

Fonz

http://www.fonzandcancer.com

Follow me on Twitter

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Email – fonzicloud@icloud.com

Our support group on our FB

Cancer stories (people helping people through experience) 

It’s a group where people’s experiences are used to encourage others. 

Everything you read are based on my own experience and my own opinions. I express them here to encourage you. Please share with others, if it meant something to you it will to someone else. All images are from a Google search. Or my own.

A walk with Faith. Or a walk by faith?

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My whole journey has been a walk by faith really, a walk by faith being; my walk believing without seeing that God would provide the tools I needed to get through the Cancer journey. As I was sat there today, I realised that if I did not get a move on I would just have to do our normal walk that me and Faith do. ( faith is our dog ) I wanted to take her somewhere different today. Somewhere neither of us had been. So I had to neglect my blog today, I have been working hard reaching out to as many people as possible while I have been recovering. The pain in my legs is horrendous sometimes, so pain killers downed and off we went to parblold hill and walk by a stream. Here are some pictures I took whilst we walked.

  
As I walked through the woods, I slowly realised that I was on a journey that although completely different to my cancer journey I was actually realising the journey was quite similar. Are you ready for the similarities? So as I walked I saw deep water, and some that was running quite fast. I remembered how it felt trying to keep my head above water, treading water whilst doing my best get to the next stage.

 
Faith was with me

  
  And I could see in the distance a bridge across the water that was so hard to wade through, the water being the chemo and the bridge being my stem cells being transplanted which gave me hope that cancer would not come back. On the journey we saw trees that were broken and snapped beyond repair. That’s how it felt at times, just “Broken” just that.

  

This one really hit Home and even called the picture “Broken”  the thing that I got from this was, that once we are broken, we are never the same again. The thing that broke us did that, we become new that’s true. But what does new mean,mwell for some it may mean living life without a limb if your a soldier, living life without someone you loved. 

  
Even though that was a painful part of my journey I walked on, the pain was like shards of glass cutting my feet as I walked. Yet I smiled, I smiled because I knew that even though there was a broken point, perhaps many I was still able to see a new view. Why because I carried on.

  
It really was like my cancer journey was being played out on this walk. Like I was being shown what was and what is. That yes there have been struggles, pain even loss. But there is a new way ahead now and by faith I must believe that the path is already laid out for me. I am in a position where for I wanted to I could just down my I pad leave all this and go and sell a product for a friend and maybe even make a few quid. But that’s not what I went through cancer for, I went through it to, help others in their lives, maybe not help but encourage people to make a differance in the life that they have.

  
That’s why walking by faith the route will be revealed to me. I have come to a choice to either follow my heart or do what I have always done. Make a few quid, but that does not make a differance, what makes a differance is following by faith the path laid out before us. It may even have some rewards along the way. Who knows.

Enjoy your walk

Fonz

http://www.fonzandcancer.com

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Email – fonzicloud@icloud.com

Our support group on our FB

Cancer stories (people helping people through experience) 

It’s a group where people’s experiences are used to encourage others. 

Everything you read are based on my own experience and my own opinions. I express them here to encourage you. Please share with others, if it meant something to you it will to someone else. All images are from a Google search. Or my own.

I love blogging and bloggers.

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If it was not for cancer, I would not have even explored blogging. Don’t you think that’s sad, how I had to get chronically ill before I felt I had something to offer the world.  I do, I mean we are all people with something to offer the world. As my dear friend Rob says “Everything is connected to everything” I have decided, well I did a long time ago. I just did not know how to make it happen. To mention bloggers every week, a kind of blogger of the week post. Only there may be just one or more than one. I am not really into these awards, but I am into recognising people that have been good people. People that blog to help others, and write to benefit others lives, not advertising bloggers, or product bloggers. I am interested in people that want other people to do well.

  www.chanelweb.co.uk
I have talked in previous blogs about, not giving a hand out rather a leg up. There are the two types of people. The ones that want a free gift, or hand out. Then there are the go getters, the ones that are already doing for other people but need a leg up, or a helping hand. Not because they don’t want to do, but because they are doing and because they are, the road became a bit more tricky. I love selfless people, because I was selfish once. I was someone that had a chip on my shoulder and thought the world owed me. Is it not us that owes the world… Why was I like that, who did I think I was! Well that does not matter really, because what’s important is what we are. NOT what we were. We choose who we are today, where as we chose what we were. The most wonderful thing about today is, that we can be a better us today than we were yesterday.

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I seem to be getting a lot of people reading my blogs in Canada at the moment, I wonder if that’s because you guys are all snowed in. I imaging log cabins, lakes, snow, Indian style canoes and massive pine trees when I think of Canada. Thank you all for reading. Wouldn’t it be good if all bloggers had a flag of the country they are in next to their name?

I hope you all have a great day, and thank you one and all for reading my blog, have an enjoyable day. Remember today is the day to make the change, start believing in you. Start stepping out in faith, every journey starts with one step. You can’t start a journey unless you put one foot forward. Today is that day.

Enjoy it,

Fonz

http://www.fonzandcancer.com

Follow me on Twitter

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Email – fonzicloud@icloud.com

Our support group on our FB

Cancer stories (people helping people through experience) 

It’s a group where people’s experiences are used to encourage others. 

Everything you read are based on my own experience and my own opinions. I express them here to encourage you. Please share with others, if it meant something to you it will to someone else. All images are from a Google search. Or my own.

Believe in yourself.

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belief, other, sacrifice

  
So what will it take for you to believe in your path, that YOU have chosen. Today has been a day where I have looked for inspiring blogs. Blogs that seem to exist to help other people and not themselves.  I have found one completely new one.

http://http//belikewaterproduction.com

Trouble is while I wanted to tell you all of other blogs I have not worked out how to do it. So I will just continue to do what I do and that’s encourage. However I am learning, there is a blogger that has tried to help me, she is very selfless.

https://lifebeyondmommy.com/
Then of course there is a blog that seems to be helping many people, he does help most people. He has the ethos that by helping someone else. It will in turn help him using the “reap what you sow”  belief.

http://dreambigdreamoften.com/
I wonder what you are here for? Are you here for yourself, or to tell the world something you think the world wants to hear. Or are you here for other people and mean it when you ask if someone is ok. This next person does mean it.
They are the only ones I will share today. But I hope to figure out how to grab people’s links and do a blog that benefits many soon. Any feed back to do that would be appreciated. 

The Vision of Poets

https://visionofpoets.wordpress.com/
Have a great evening or day. Believe in yourself and don’t stop going for your goal.

Fonz

http://www.fonzandcancer.com

Follow me on Twitter

@fonzmark

Email – fonzicloud@icloud.com

Our support group on our FB

Cancer stories (people helping people through experience) 

It’s a group where people’s experiences are used to encourage others. 

Everything you read are based on my own experience and my own opinions. I express them here to encourage you. Please share with others, if it meant something to you it will to someone else. All images are from a Google search. Or my own.