Build your dream.

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No one can stop you from having a dream, no one can stop you from setting any goal you want to set. The man that does, WILL have hardship, that man will have a stumbling blocks placed before him. Of course those that do not do are no threat to the world, so guess what,you are more likely to have an easier ride than the man that does. You see in life, there will not be great things done, unless you think great. Right at the start of Cancer for me, which lets face it is. (Life) but did not cancer happen so that men might have life.. Really it’s true, God uses weakness. He will not use strength unless that strength has been learnt through humility, humility comes from weakness. Your purpose is greater than your pain.

  
In my life, a life I have chosen to have. I dare to dream and by faith believe that that dream will happen. Every dream I have involves people being blessed, I hope for love and healing for people that suffer. It’s not just cancer sufferers I  hope will be blessed, and even healed. You have a right to dream, and the dream can be as big as you like. But seriously, how can any man make a dream come true if he has no dream. 

  
 Who ever you are, what ever you face you can. Only the thoughts in your mind restrict you,  but believing by faith can bring all your dreams to fruition and much more. I share how I feel and the struggles I face daily, so that you can know that it’s normal to feel low, it’s normal to lose hope because of your situation. It’s normal to have a dip in your life, your day or week. I can choose to live a life  where I dare to dream, or a life where I fight for everything. What was it I dreamt at the beginning of this blog. Oh yea that’s right, beating cancer. I dreamt, the war is won. You CAN win yours to, but for you to build on that you have to have a dream. I cannot wait yo hear your stories.

Have a great day

Fonz

http://www.fonzandcancer.com

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It’s a group where people’s experiences are used to encourage others. 

Everything you read are based on my own experience and my own opinions. I express them here to encourage you. Please share with others, if it meant something to you it will to someone else. All images are from a Google search. Or my own.

We is the me with a w.

It makes me wonder sometimes what does the w stand for though. When you look into this small word your realise that actually this word is everything that your life is. It is nothing to do with what your life is not.  I mean what is me, it’s singular, it’s just one person meaning nothing apart from yourself, alone. Yet add the word ‘with’ it becomes we. I am going to attempt to explain how I feel right now.  After all a year in the cancer journey I have and am undergoing right now. People don’t understand, only people that have had cancer really can relate to it. So here we go, this is my way of describing what  I/we have faced and face even now.

  
Ever felt so low you think you will never come back… That’s how I feel right now, I don’t feel able to pick myself up. Just feel like I am in this massive ball of depression. I had been expecting it, now I feel defeated like I have no more left to give. It’s a strange feeling, a weightless feeling, one that seems to not value life any more. You think all the mountains have been climbed but now I am faced with a mountain to big to climb. The shadow is to dark. To wide. I must now wait until I have the strength to carry on… I feel so empty, I don’t know why. All I know is my strength has been used, the tank went to empty, I played petrol station bingo, I carried on with no fuel. Now I feel ruined, broken beyond comprehension. Maybe the love we have together is futile apart, worthless without each other. I have not the power of us, the power of we. How can I be without a we. We is the me with a w.

  
Then you wonder why your mind is doing this, you knew it would come. It’s not that your weak, although you feel it for sure. It is far deeper than that, it’s despair, anger, and for sure a feeling of defeat. You may not understand how much it takes to beat cancer, how much of you gets used. How much of the person caring for you gets used, this next picture is for sure how it feels in picture form for a person that carries on with the challenge.

  
This my wife as she turns her back on the sand being whipped up by the wind. We wanted to turn back, but we would not get the photograph of the sea that we wanted if we did, so we walked forwards backwards. This was the result of our efforts.

  

We don’t know what is beyond the horizon, all WE can do is trust that our strength will be renewed. Maybe it’s when we stop and take stock that the truth of where we are at but also what we have achieved together becomes apparent. I lost £240 today in a bundle which I had been keeping for us to do something together with this weekend. To say that I am devastated is an understatement. It’s like I have been hit with a shovel at my lowest, life can be so cruel sometimes. So now we find ourselves house bound on that weekend off. Of course we will make the best of it, but sometimes you just have to not fight against the wind blowing in your face and just go with it. Sometimes life hands us a hand that’s unfair, but you just know that sunshine is somewhere, I believe that the people in the world that get the roughest ride are the people that STAND and make a differance.
   
   
So tomorrow, I will stand. We WILL be together and we will have ridden out the storm together. Because WE are stronger than ME.

Have a great day

Fonz

http://www.fonzandcancer.com

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Everything you read are based on my own experience and my own opinions. I express them here to encourage you. Please share with others, if it meant something to you it will to someone else. All images are from a Google search. Or my own.

It’s taken Dedication.

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cancer, giving, healthy, love, pain, passion, time, together

It’s a tough old challenge to make happen some times, I set it for myself. To blog everyday for 365 days straight, I am still on target although I am having a bit of a break this weekend. I hope you don’t mind, but my wife has the weekend off so I am going to spend it with her. We are going to hold hands, walk, talk, eat, and generally enjoy spending time together.

I think it’s vital to make sure that my marriage remains healthy. It’s all very well taking on a challenge that huge. But Andie is my world and not to be neglected.  She got her last management feedback last nigh before entering into the executive world. I could not be more proud. That lady has helped me though cancer in a year and maintained an impeccable record working full time. Now there is one amazing girl. I am incredibly proud of her, and whilst she won’t like me putting it out there, it won’t change that I am proud of her.

  
It’s time for us now and I am gonna enjoy it, it’s rare she has time off call, faithy is coming to. I will take some pictures today and no doubt blog about where we have been and what we have done later. Until then, have a great day everyone. Don’t forget the people that love is in our daily lives, they are after all the people we have chosen to love forever. Whilst I love blogging, and all you bloggers that have decided I am value enough for you to follow. We all have lives and people that we need to give to in the physical. 

Have a great day

Fonz

  http://www.fonzandcancer.com

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Everything you read are based on my own experience and my own opinions. I express them here to encourage you. Please share with others, if it meant something to you it will to someone else. All images are from a Google search. Or my own.

THE DOORS

Although this blog is 8 months old I thought It went well with today’s, showing how I have had to maintain the same spirit all the way through.

fonzandcancer blogging to encourage.

The doors.

I want to talk to you about what it takes to even be accepted for a bone marrow transplant. Not the ordeal itself but what needs to be achieved to make it happen.

Obviously as you all know I had ABVD chemo to save my life in 2011 being weeks or months from being compromised by death.

The hardest thing to do in life is to step into the unexpected, to walk through the doors. I was on holiday in October last year with my men, the silverback tribe as Skyman calls it, started by the man that’s half man. If he reads it he will know.

1 memory was Christmas Eve last year, having to walk through the doors of the day theatre, my mind had left me as I put the rather fetching socks on and I lost all control. I had gotten to the doors…

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1 step, 1 punch, 1 round at a time.

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1 step, 1 punch, 1 round at a time.
Advice I most definitely would dispatch to anyone fighting cancer, don’t look to far ahead, look at the hear and now and getting through that. Because in my mind, that’s all someone can do when the odds don’t seem in your favour. My favourite films are the Rocky films, I must have watched them a thousand times. During my hospital stay, having my transplant. I would say (the wife gave the statistics to me, she was there to) I watched rocky 3 and 4 over and over for 4 10 days straight. 

For me anyway it was always about getting through those impossible minutes. Gaining victory every minute, because I realised early on that a second was possible in that room, but a minutia was not. But I could string 60 seconds together to make an impossible minute. And string 60 of those together to make an hour eventually 20 days later I was on the way home. 

  
You see the only thing getting in the way of you and cancer, is you. You are the only way to beat cancer, even if you are terminal ( which we all are) it’s your willingness to fight that stands between you and a smile. You choose to sit where you do and wallow. You also choose to use what’s available to you and make something happen. Even if it is a walk in the garden, and I know how hard a walk in the garden can be. 

  
Photographs of your garden, listening to the conversation that is the planet is in your hands, and choices. Choose to fight every second to get to the end and here those words. The words you crave to hear, make a difference with your life. It’s yours after all, we will all die one day. Don’t feel sorry that will happen, feel amazing you had and have a life to live today!
So we have just finished watching Creed, I feel amazing that I am in my 48th year really amazed we got here, I have my wife and the power that’s in the name of Jesus to thank for that. Because that is where my strength came from. Choose to fight, 1 step at a time.
Fonz 
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Everything you read are based on my own experience and my own opinions. I express them here to encourage you. Please share with others, if it meant something to you it will to someone else. All images are from a Google search. Or my own.

A poem. ( author undisclosed )

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poem

There once was a man called Mark,

Who took his dog for long walks in the park,

His wife needed feeding, his dog mimics breeding and his blogs set on fire from a spark. 

200

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achievment, cancer, commitment, dips, encouragement, followed, followers, troughs

I write this on the 28th of January. On January 1 st  of January I set a goal to get better at writing and hoped 200 people would follow my blog. 27 days ago..

  
I am stoked, thanks so much to you all. Each and every one. I got this the other day to.

  
Seems people must like what they read. So I will keep on towards my goal of 365 blogs in 365 days. Then my next goal will be 1,000,000 likes after that. Thanks for being there and making my day folks…..

Fonz

http://www.fonzandcancer.com

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Cancer stories (people helping people through experience) 

It’s a group where people’s experiences are used to encourage others. 

Everything you read are based on my own experience and my own opinions. I express them here to encourage you. Please share with others, if it meant something to you it will to someone else. All images are from a Google search. Or my own.

A walk with Faith. Or a walk by faith?

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My whole journey has been a walk by faith really, a walk by faith being; my walk believing without seeing that God would provide the tools I needed to get through the Cancer journey. As I was sat there today, I realised that if I did not get a move on I would just have to do our normal walk that me and Faith do. ( faith is our dog ) I wanted to take her somewhere different today. Somewhere neither of us had been. So I had to neglect my blog today, I have been working hard reaching out to as many people as possible while I have been recovering. The pain in my legs is horrendous sometimes, so pain killers downed and off we went to parblold hill and walk by a stream. Here are some pictures I took whilst we walked.

  
As I walked through the woods, I slowly realised that I was on a journey that although completely different to my cancer journey I was actually realising the journey was quite similar. Are you ready for the similarities? So as I walked I saw deep water, and some that was running quite fast. I remembered how it felt trying to keep my head above water, treading water whilst doing my best get to the next stage.

 
Faith was with me

  
  And I could see in the distance a bridge across the water that was so hard to wade through, the water being the chemo and the bridge being my stem cells being transplanted which gave me hope that cancer would not come back. On the journey we saw trees that were broken and snapped beyond repair. That’s how it felt at times, just “Broken” just that.

  

This one really hit Home and even called the picture “Broken”  the thing that I got from this was, that once we are broken, we are never the same again. The thing that broke us did that, we become new that’s true. But what does new mean,mwell for some it may mean living life without a limb if your a soldier, living life without someone you loved. 

  
Even though that was a painful part of my journey I walked on, the pain was like shards of glass cutting my feet as I walked. Yet I smiled, I smiled because I knew that even though there was a broken point, perhaps many I was still able to see a new view. Why because I carried on.

  
It really was like my cancer journey was being played out on this walk. Like I was being shown what was and what is. That yes there have been struggles, pain even loss. But there is a new way ahead now and by faith I must believe that the path is already laid out for me. I am in a position where for I wanted to I could just down my I pad leave all this and go and sell a product for a friend and maybe even make a few quid. But that’s not what I went through cancer for, I went through it to, help others in their lives, maybe not help but encourage people to make a differance in the life that they have.

  
That’s why walking by faith the route will be revealed to me. I have come to a choice to either follow my heart or do what I have always done. Make a few quid, but that does not make a differance, what makes a differance is following by faith the path laid out before us. It may even have some rewards along the way. Who knows.

Enjoy your walk

Fonz

http://www.fonzandcancer.com

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Cancer stories (people helping people through experience) 

It’s a group where people’s experiences are used to encourage others. 

Everything you read are based on my own experience and my own opinions. I express them here to encourage you. Please share with others, if it meant something to you it will to someone else. All images are from a Google search. Or my own.

I love blogging and bloggers.

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If it was not for cancer, I would not have even explored blogging. Don’t you think that’s sad, how I had to get chronically ill before I felt I had something to offer the world.  I do, I mean we are all people with something to offer the world. As my dear friend Rob says “Everything is connected to everything” I have decided, well I did a long time ago. I just did not know how to make it happen. To mention bloggers every week, a kind of blogger of the week post. Only there may be just one or more than one. I am not really into these awards, but I am into recognising people that have been good people. People that blog to help others, and write to benefit others lives, not advertising bloggers, or product bloggers. I am interested in people that want other people to do well.

  www.chanelweb.co.uk
I have talked in previous blogs about, not giving a hand out rather a leg up. There are the two types of people. The ones that want a free gift, or hand out. Then there are the go getters, the ones that are already doing for other people but need a leg up, or a helping hand. Not because they don’t want to do, but because they are doing and because they are, the road became a bit more tricky. I love selfless people, because I was selfish once. I was someone that had a chip on my shoulder and thought the world owed me. Is it not us that owes the world… Why was I like that, who did I think I was! Well that does not matter really, because what’s important is what we are. NOT what we were. We choose who we are today, where as we chose what we were. The most wonderful thing about today is, that we can be a better us today than we were yesterday.

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I seem to be getting a lot of people reading my blogs in Canada at the moment, I wonder if that’s because you guys are all snowed in. I imaging log cabins, lakes, snow, Indian style canoes and massive pine trees when I think of Canada. Thank you all for reading. Wouldn’t it be good if all bloggers had a flag of the country they are in next to their name?

I hope you all have a great day, and thank you one and all for reading my blog, have an enjoyable day. Remember today is the day to make the change, start believing in you. Start stepping out in faith, every journey starts with one step. You can’t start a journey unless you put one foot forward. Today is that day.

Enjoy it,

Fonz

http://www.fonzandcancer.com

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Cancer stories (people helping people through experience) 

It’s a group where people’s experiences are used to encourage others. 

Everything you read are based on my own experience and my own opinions. I express them here to encourage you. Please share with others, if it meant something to you it will to someone else. All images are from a Google search. Or my own.

Believe in yourself.

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So what will it take for you to believe in your path, that YOU have chosen. Today has been a day where I have looked for inspiring blogs. Blogs that seem to exist to help other people and not themselves.  I have found one completely new one.

http://http//belikewaterproduction.com

Trouble is while I wanted to tell you all of other blogs I have not worked out how to do it. So I will just continue to do what I do and that’s encourage. However I am learning, there is a blogger that has tried to help me, she is very selfless.

https://lifebeyondmommy.com/
Then of course there is a blog that seems to be helping many people, he does help most people. He has the ethos that by helping someone else. It will in turn help him using the “reap what you sow”  belief.

http://dreambigdreamoften.com/
I wonder what you are here for? Are you here for yourself, or to tell the world something you think the world wants to hear. Or are you here for other people and mean it when you ask if someone is ok. This next person does mean it.
They are the only ones I will share today. But I hope to figure out how to grab people’s links and do a blog that benefits many soon. Any feed back to do that would be appreciated. 

The Vision of Poets

https://visionofpoets.wordpress.com/
Have a great evening or day. Believe in yourself and don’t stop going for your goal.

Fonz

http://www.fonzandcancer.com

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Cancer stories (people helping people through experience) 

It’s a group where people’s experiences are used to encourage others. 

Everything you read are based on my own experience and my own opinions. I express them here to encourage you. Please share with others, if it meant something to you it will to someone else. All images are from a Google search. Or my own.

5 years.

Some things need saying twice….

fonzandcancer blogging to encourage.

5years
Wow, we made it if you are reading this, we have been married for 5 years today. There have been times we thought we would not make it due to my illness. But here we are celebrating 5 years marriage after the most cruel 5 years anyone could have imagined. Even yesterday a friend of mine lost his fight. It’s so sad that life has to end at some point, but it’s the same for us all.

I don’t want to be alive and do nothing with this precious life, it does not matter to me that we have fought to be here, what matters is that we are here, that our love has lasted. That I have a wife that’s not only faithful, but loves me with her whole heart. I can’t get through today without remembering my friend James we talked often on messenger. It’s amazing to…

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Through Crystal Glass

I just love being involved in people’s lives….

The Vision of Poets

Through Crystal Glass was inspired by my friend Fonz (Mark) in a post he titled “The Window”.  His post and associated comments inspired me to take my own journey through “The Window” and at his request… This is what I found there…

Thank you Fonz…

Through Crystal Glass

I peered through crystal window glass
In darkness fore the dawn
Searching for tomorrow’s light
Through musings of my yawn…
 
I traveled far beyond the walls
Where others do not stare
Where dreams are not just jaded hope
When troubled souls come bare
 
As hues of dawn touched window’s glass
Reflecting morning’s dew
When fog touched soft the lily field
Brought visions into view
 
I saw them on the mountain top
Their palms toward the sky
With beams of healing hues of green
And teardrops in their eyes
 
They offered me a crystal stone
Amethyst clear and pure

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Featured Bloggers 1/25/16: Networking 101

Wow Danny says ( I ain’t gonna argue with Danny ) that I am a feature blogger. Thanks mate I really appreciate that… 😊

A look back at the 80s

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  One thing the Internet is amazing for is to bring back times in our lives from the time we want to remember. Here are some pictures and videos to remember the 80s. Starting with 30 of the top songs that were played at that time.

Thriller video was one of the most watched videos of all time.

It was a time when calculators became watches, they could only tell the time and add up though. Some of course did have stop watches unlike the I phone watch that enables us to have a face time chat. Something I thought would never be possible.

  

The James Bond car was a Lotus

  
British leyland were making the Princess, Montego and Metro. People looked at each other when they spoke to each other, unless they were doing the rubix cube.

  
 We had tape recorders and bought tapes with the name platinum on them, we recorded the top 40 on the radio and were always worried if we would get caught. Recording it was a work of art, trying to get it stopped before the dj spoke.

  
People had big hair and walked around with guetto blasters on our shoulders, well I did. Yoda and rocky were on our screens.Pacman was a  game everyone had heard of. Big hair and streets were normal, winkle pickers  were worn on your feet and thongs really were worn by women, not on your feet if your Australian. The smell of Castrol R two stroke oil was awesome if you liked motor bikes. The Audi Quattro was the car that dominated the rally scene, I would own one in the future. This was mine.

  
GTI were the letters everyone knew.

When someone said “Do you want to play a game” you were sat next to each other not on the Internet. For us some of what we did is here.

  
Portable phones had a 30 m cable attached to them, which meant you could walk around your house talking. If you were not born in the sixties you did not become an adult surrounded by these things. A video recorders pause button was broken on it due to us boys trying to pause it at the right time, when Barbara winsors top came off in the carry on movie at that time.

Pernod and black was my drink of choice, (What did I know)!!
What are your memories growing up? Has this blog reminded you of any?

Let’s hear them all, 

Fonz
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Everything you read are based on my own experience and my own opinions. I express them here to encourage you. Please share with others, if it meant something to you it will to someone else. All images are from a Google search. Or my own. 

16 Places You’ll Hardly Believe Are In The United Kingdom….

I was surprised to find I had been to all but 2 of these places. Both at each end of the country… Oh and maybe 3 as although been to Norfolk I have never seen the lavender fields

seagirll

1. Little Venice – Maida Vale in London

Where you’ll think you are: If you didn’t know any better, you might think that you’re looking at photos of the canals in Amsterdam or Venice.

Where it actually is: What you’re actually seeing is a residential district in London called Maida Vale. The area features a series of canals that host the Canalway Cavalcade every year. Over 160 boats flock to the canals annually for a series of events, parades, and for shopping and eating.

2. Tolsta Beach – Isle of Lewis in Scotland

Where you’ll think you are: Pretty much any place but Scotland.

Where it actually is: Scotland! Can you believe it? The Outer Hebrides especially has some lovely beaches that can be pleasant, as long as the weather holds up.

3. The tropical rainforest inside the Eden Project of Cornwall

Where you’ll think you are: A tropical rainforest…

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Diamonds, are they Wealth or loss?

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It is a fact that diamonds will last forever. Out last me or you, Lilly Allen says people die trying yo find them. Whilst I don’t like some of her language in her song I do believe her. I mean what’s more important in life, a diamond that will outlast me or you or what truly matters. Have you indeed worked out what truly matters? You live a life, and search for the secret of life, you try to find it in gold, money, diamonds, all the while being distracted by women and things that perish and rust away. You see I think I have found the answer and it most certainly isn’t in diamonds, gold or anything else that lives on this planet.

The things that are priceless on this earth are not even from this earth, it can’t be seen touched or held. We are made to be humans that have emotion, is that emotion in a marriage, a relationship. Is it not true that we will never know if a person loves us, they may show us by actions, gifts, holidays, even diamonds. But surely 7 billion people have not been put on this planet for Gods own pleasure. I mean I know God laughs with us all as he watches us scrat around, living our aimless lives. 

If you can see or touch it, it is worthless, maybe not completely but most certainly what we can touch and feel in its physical form will not exsist some day.

Are not the things that truly matter in life, unseen priceless and worth our effort. After all when we leave this planet we will leave with nothing, so what will we leave behind. A house, a car, some bonds, £25. A diamond worth a fortune? It’s all worthless in the end. So what is it that has worth in my opinion, it’s clearly not physical. You would be right there.

  
It’s about integrity, faith to believe that no matter what happens. That you are doing your best, you make people feel the feeling inside that brings security, Love and a belief that what you dream is not futile. What matters is the differance you make in someone’s life, the way you make them feel inside. Non of what I speak of costs anything except the time God has given you on this earth. What you think your so special that God has a different plan for you? No one is that special, we are all given the same capabilities, but different journeys. I believe you can encourage someone, that you are given that ability. Choose to be that person that makes someone feel amazing, as apposed to seeking for yourself. Give someone that smile only you can give them today, someone’s happiness is in your hands. Love is without doubt the greatest gift of all.

Fonz

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It’s a group where people’s experiences are used to encourage others. 

Everything you read are based on my own experience and my own opinions. I express them here to encourage you. Please share with others, if it meant something to you it will to someone else. All images are from a Google search. Or my own.

This is my battle, your advice is NOT welcome.

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chemotheropy, journey, Listen, silence, support

I don’t want to hear how well Peggy Sue is doing,  I know she is doing better than I was at that point in recovery, but this is how I feel. Have you ever thought that? Well I have! People saying  how well other people are doing in their recovery. Well you have to know that while people see me as strong and unshakable, I have side effects in recovery that are normal, but not all people have the same as I do. In fact I would go so far as to say no one has exactly the same side effects as another person. I get more side effects the more I do, which is a bit frustrating to say the least. 

 
I was talking to someone today what was saying, that she wants to tell people how she feels not have people tell her how others have felt. This is NOT selfish, this is part of the process of having a disease. Part of a recovery process, it’s one of the golden rules when talking to someone quit saying what is was like unless you say ” would you like to hear how it was for me”? I have had people say no. Oh and guess what, that’s fine to. Because the battle someone faces is worse than anyone else’s as it unfolds. What they face is real NOW, so many people think that telling the world how it was for someone else, is “comforting?” I know right? 

  
You know what comforting. Knowing that person has their phone next to them for you yo call if you need to. A gentle text, flowers that smell nice. That can also be a problem if they have lost the ability to taste or smell. The most important thing to do, here it is the money sentence. LISTEN…..  Just listen to them, hug them and make sure they know you care! Simple isn’t it and yes it really is that simple. Sometimes sitting and saying nothing is better than trying to make conversation.

Fonz

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Everything you read are based on my own experience and my own opinions. I express them here to encourage you. Please share with others, if it meant something to you it will to someone else. All images are from a Google search. Or my own.

10 Lies You Tell Yourself That Keep You From Your Goals

Absolutely brilliant mind set…

The greatest love of All…

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belief, confidence, hope, iam, self, spiritual, youare

Although I have blogged about this before, You are what you say you are. This is how coach Jerry puts it in his blog. This is his web site address. 

http://www.80insights.com

So I was chatting to Jerry this morning backwards and forwards on WordPress commenting on each other’s posts. He mentioned to me about the power of words, how we can speak life to ourselves by saying the words “I am” 3 letters but yet possibly the most powerful words we can say. As Jerry reminded me the bible starts with those words, as was the world if you believe it happened that way (I do).

So for me this is where confidence starts, by saying those words. I remember a long time ago hating the reflection I saw in the mirror, the events that led to me believing that of myself makes no difference here. But the point is, the man/boy that looked back I disliked intensely. I said sentences like “I am useless” “I am a failure” “I am a waste of space” I believed it. So if I believed it why would anyone else think better of me. It had to start with me saying the words, before I would in fact start believing it. It may sound strange the sentence “I am beautiful” but that’s what I started to say when I looked in the mirror.

  Vivid life.me
Ok so I did not believe it, in fact I spoke some pretty blue language the first time I said it. I did not believe it at all, my self esteem “well I did not have any”  I believed who was looking back was worthless and it had to start with the words ” I am beautiful” slowly but surely my confidence grew. Every time I looked at my reflection saying the words that I did not believe. There were tears, there were arguments with myself. But confidence is not a gift, you don’t get a gift of confidence. It is something you choose, something you cultivate. It starts by speaking life into your own life, it starts with the words “I am” but it’s what ever you choose to put after those 3 letters that is in your destruction or in your victory. 

I can be what ever I choose to be, it started with I am. Here I am so long after that in fact 24 years of building my own confidence, choosing to speak life to myself. Then leading me to a diagnosis and a long arduace fight having my confidence tested, time and time again. It’s about what you choose this life, you can help someone grow over time. But it can be destroyed by saying one sentence. So thank you Jerry for reminding me of that “I am” and I hope that someone out there reads this and becomes confident because you read it.

Have a great weekend

Fonz

The window

Source: The window

Bloggers Bash 2016 – Venue Announcement

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I really want to go to this, anyone in the northwest of England going?
The Bloggers Bash Committee said this year would be bigger and better – and trust me, it will be. We, the committee, have plans afoot to make it a cracking day. If you don’t know what the bash is, it’s an annual get together for bloggers everywhere. The bash is open to everyone, whether you blog […]

http://sachablack.co.uk/2016/01/15/bloggers-bash-2016-venue-announcement/

Staying alive.

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battle, beegees, cancer, illness, stayingalive, surviving, war

When I hear those two words together I always think of the bee gees.mgotta find that on you tube in a bit. Many people are reading my blog these days that did not have cancer, they had a battle but not cancer. They are also being encouraged by hearing about my journey. I love that, I love that people affected by illness are being encouraged. Maybe I slipped up there and should have called my blog  fonzandillness.

It seems like so many people around the world are fighting something, if not ALL of mankind. I think we are all going through something in our lives. I am thankful to still have today, today. Off to put a shed up with a mate in a bit, how cool that I am even able to do that. It’s ace….

  www.popsugar.com 
Staying alive is not a battle it’s lots of them all strung together that make up a war. The trick is to get each battle sorted minute by minute. Eventually the day will be done, but don’t let that day be over without looking around at what beauty surrounds us. We live on an amazing planet, and you are just a timy speck on that planet. We are all important in our own way, but what’s amazing is. You could be holding the words someone needs to stay alive today. You could be the tonic they need today, you have so much to give. What use is it in your head, it’s only helping you. How many others could you help by spending a few moments to share your thoughts with us all. The human race is an amazing web of awesomeness, make sure your a good part of that, what ever your fighting, your exsperiences are there to help others live a better life.

Have a great weekend

Fonz

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Everything you read are based on my own experience and my own opinions. I express them here to encourage you. Please share with others, if it meant something to you it will to someone else. All images are from a Google search. Or my own.

The Strength of Us

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This is the strength of us Facing everything together And never giving up Once in a lifetime True love finds a place to shine In the heart In the soul In hands clasped tight Love shines Whatever comes Whatever you face Face it together One heart One soul Allow love to be bold God is […]

https://syl65.wordpress.com/2016/01/20/the-strength-of-us/

Diagnosis.

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I read a snippet from a blogger yesterday  Danny , his diagnosis was the start of a new journey. It got me thinking about my journey. My new WordPress friend does not have cancer, his diagnosis was something else. He has an amazing attitude, an attitude that life is a journey and so what if he had other plans on the old journey before his diagnosis. It’s the start of a brand new journey. I hear people say to me a lot it’s ok for you though your not terminal. My response is always the same “we are all terminal, it’s just you have a clearer idea of when that will be” 

  
See there are  only two ways to look at your future. You can either be an optimist or a pessimist. An optimist can see good in all situations, but a pessimist expects things to go wrong and expects there to be issues that will hinder their progress. Maybe a pessimist is more of a realist, what do you think. 

Back to the point, anyone that’s had a doctor sit in front of them knows how it feels to have a diagnosis given. I was not One of the lucky ones. Mine was “you have Cancer” very chilling words and they do take some time to get your head round. All sorts of other things went with that, the asking of questions, “what will happen if I don’t have treatment”? “what’s  Chemothearopy“? lots of things I asked like that. 

It’s only looking back that you realise that it was the start of a journey, one with lots of trials but at the same time, one I am glad I went on. Without cancer I would not be writing this blog, I would not have the friends I have. Cancer has given me so much. You see you can gain so much because of your diagnosis, you just have to keep your head up and keep Doing. Life is only a slog if we make it one, yesterday I put a note up.mit was a cactus picture. With the caption “just because your given a cactus it does not mean you have to sit on it” our attitude to desease is the key to a better journey with it. Hang our heads, and walk around like the world owes us a living ,then generally people will not want to help. Put your hand out to help someone up, and help will come to you. That’s the way the world works, a secret of a happy life. I love to discover secrets of life, little gems are always hidden. Only those that look for diamonds find them.

Have a great day.

Fonz

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Fire and the sustaining of life.

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chemotheropy, coal, Fire, given, life, photosynthisis, sunset, sustain

Fire is the giver of life, did you know that the fires that happen naturally in the wild are needed …

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Carrot cake. (A story)

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cancer, chemotheropy, human, kindness, LEP, Sharing, support

So how did I come to have this amazingly tasty carrot cake in my kitchen. Well it’s quite a story as to how it got there really starting with my old school friend Daniel Clyedburn. You see if it was not for Danny there would be no carrot cake in my kitchen even though he did not make it it’s because of him it’s there. You see Danny made a phone call to someone called Aasma day, Aasma works at the LEP (Lancashire evening post) he called her up to say that he had a friend who had beaten cancer twice and maybe she may like to run a story on him. So that men would be encouraged to get their butts to the doctors on finding a lump. That because He did this He was still alive and his friend owed his life to the NHS and the medicine that was given to him, in the form of  chemothearopy. 

  
The next step in the chain that led to my carrot cake was a photographer coming to his friends house and photographing him and his wife along with his dog Faith. They ran the story both on the Internet and in the actual LEP. You can read the article here.

http://www.lep.co.uk/news/community/cancer-fighter-mark-beats-disease-twice-despite-delayed-diagnosis-1-7481482

In running the article, Aasma kindly agreed to put the link to his friends cancer support group, and also his friends blog address. This is where the chain of events led to my carrot cake finding its way to my kitchen. You see, in wanting to help other people and desiring to give hope to mankind, and because Danny told Aasma day about his friend. Some people in the surrounding area joined the cancer stories support group, that is there for people to lean on each other because of their own journeies. One of those people lived in the friends village, another lived in a near by city called Preston. Together as man and wife they talked and were encouraged, because of cancer stories which may (if I can be so bold) have contributed to saving someone’s life.

  
Of course you know who Danny’s friend is, because the person who made my amazing carrot cake is called Anne and she read the article in the LEP and joined our group along with her husband Dave. Such special people who came to my house yesterday for a coffee and a slice of carrot cake that she had made for me, Danny’s friend from school. It’s a chain of human kindness that led to me and my wife being able to enjoy this special gift given to us because of Danny. So tonight we will be sat by the open fire listening to the rain pounding the Windows nice and warm with a slice of cake washed down with a glass of red. Thanks Anne, Aasma, and Danny. Maybe there will be some left for you when I see you on Saturday Danny.

Keep encouraging everyone, it’s the best thing in the world to give a little human kindness to someone. Have a great night.

Fonz

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Everything you read are based on my own experience and my own opinions. I express them here to encourage you. Please share with others, if it meant something to you it will to someone else. All images are from a Google search. Or my own.

I am blessed to be alive.

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How are you all today? I know some of you will not be great others like me will be over the moon to be able to open my eyes once again. To have a new day to live, I feel blessed just to have the chance at a new life. Today is my mums birthday, and whilst I won’t see her today I shall on Sunday with the whole family as we share a meal together to celebrate our mum being 70 years old. I may do a blog just for her later but for now I want to talk to you about how wonderful life is.

  
You see we are the ones that have doctors with knowledge, hospitals with people in them passionate about saving lives, they work tirelessly to help us win our battles, there are so many people that dedicate their lives to us getting better. How grateful I am to be awake today, to have a full day ahead of me to enjoy or endure. Today I am going to choose to enjoy not endure. Many times whilst I was having treatment I had fun with the nurses, doctors, cleaners whoever. As far as I was concerned they are all a link in a chain that made it possible for me to get my life back.

I am for sure a blessed man, not a cursed man because I had cancer I was chosen possibly to have it, I do for sure see the world through different eyes, I am more sensitive, more loving and more appreciative of what I do have not what I could have. It was the same when I had cancer, I was appreciative of the the people I had to care for me as opposed to being downtroddon that I even had to go through the journey they call cancer.

  Picture from http://www.thelaughterward.com
When you see life like this, it’s suprising how soon the world around you changes. All because of your attitude to the desease.  Is there really a reason I got it to encourage others on their journey. Was I really chosen to have cancer because cancer needs someone like me to have it? Well I Don’t know the answer to that question, but I do know I am blessed to have today.. As they say in the US of A. 

Have a blessed day.

Fonz

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One of the lucky ones!

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cancer, courage, journey, love, lymphoma, positivity, stage 4

This is what my wife wrote before I went into transplant and have only just read it! Have a read and see if you think she is amazing or not!
Cancer. A word that can invoke many emotions. Type cancer into any search engine and prepare for the information overload. I am one of the lucky ones. I have not been diagnosed with cancer.  I have not sat in front of a consultant whilst hearing them tell me that there is an invader in my […]

https://pandyb.wordpress.com/2015/05/06/one-of-the-lucky-ones/

Cheese or penguin day.

Which one will you celebrate today? Or neither?

Fonz

Most times, your own grass is greener…

A wonderful blog by a wonderful person.

I am grateful for a time such as this. I know that I have a long way to go to achieve some of my goals and my dreams, but the fact that I have set off on my way, makes me excited each day as I key into the day to try and do the […]

http://acookingpotandtwistedtales.com/2016/01/20/most-times-your-own-grass-is-greener/

Do What You Say

This is most definetley a great post.

Source: Do What You Say

“Blog on” he said. Calling all IT geeks? HELP!

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So after putting the feelers out to a few bloggers that I respect, Opinunated man, and Autum it seems what I write can’t be taught. It seems that bloggers that blog from exsperience and the heart can’t be taught how to blog. That got me thinking, “do I really want to change how I blog”? Well I don’t know, all I know is I want to encourage people facing illness in one way or another, and to do that I will change anything. 

  
Is my blog innefective? The answer to that is No. I know that because of the people that read them the messages they leave. I am encouraged daily  by people so I guess not. 

So here is the question, “How do I reach more people”? That’s it. Is there a recommended course out there, what free ways are there out there to give my blog more exposure.  Please help me guys, I am new and not a techy just a guy who has had cancer twice and reached cure. Wanting to reach more people everywhere. My blog is read in 74 countries average of 1600 people,a week although there has been double that nearly. Just reaching out for help.

My heart is open like a ripe peach, treat me well and I hope you share this with the people that can help.?

Fonz

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Cancer stories (people helping people through experience) 

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Everything you read are based on my own experience and my own opinions. I express them here to encourage you. Please share with others, if it meant something to you it will to someone else. All images are from a Google search. Or my own.

The blogging world.

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eachother, encourage, everyone, give, help, helping, people, someone, time

It’s funny isn’t it, how something so small as writing can possibly change a life. All my thoughts I once had were mine, now I feel like they are yours aswell. When I started writing is was to send a message to so many that they could win and defeat cancer to. Now I feel like a man in the ocean , just the journey and me. Sometimes people comment and help me along. 

Michael33 

Jabrush

Lifebeyondmommy
Dawn Marie

Puppy doc

And pandyb

Teacup talk

Amanda Llyle

Dray0308

Fiona

Anonymous 

Someone

Blyning15

Oana roses

Thebikinibookworm

Fiona

Skinnyandsingle
And so many more

These people, are they people did Autum really read my blog.

Well here’s my decision, that no matter what people do. I WILL and I am going to encourage more people. These people I have mentioned are just a few that I interact with. But all I can hope is that somewhere out there everyday somewhere, there is a differance being made in people’s lives. One thing is for sure, I would not know these people without cancer. So that’s gotta be a good thing to come out of cancer? Right?

It’s about helping each other, sharing blogs that mean something to me. I only share them if I think my audience will benifit. I am trying to encourage people where they are at and hope people get something good from Me everyday.

Enjoy your day everyone

Fonz

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Considering others… Or not?

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achieve, change, forever, life, poem, selfish, share

So you don’t write? Why? 

Because of what others may think,

You say you won’t like it and don’t try,

Your feelings to not share you think.

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So by not sharing does it give good,

Or are you hiding something good to share,

Someones life changed because of your words,

Changed for ever because that you shared.

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Your choice will maybe change ,

Maybe forever make a difference.

But your choice is what matters,

Your in charge of all that is yours.

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The choice you make to not share,

That could change a life forever.

No matter what do or don’t do.

What you feel will not have changed.

.

Mark Blackwell 19/01/2016
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What 4.5 Years and 1 Million Views of Blogging Have Taught Me

Well I found this helpful, I hope my fellow bloggers do to..

Girl Boner

About four and a half years ago, I asked my then agent what I could do to better my odds of success as an author, other than writing and writing some more. Among his chief suggestions? Start a blog.

Write for free in the spare time I don’t exactly have? It sounded like dreadful homework, but like many writers, I was eager to do whatever it took to move forward. That “whatever” turned out to be one of the most important professional decisions I’ve made.

Over the weekend, my blog reached 1 million views. While numbers are by far not the most important thing and all relative, this felt pretty awesome—especially considering I recall very well a time I nearly pleaded people to check it out. (Uh, that’s not a suggestion.)

PLEASE? I’ll do anything!

Some writers might hear “a million views” and think, “Yeah, but it was all for FREE!”…

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Depression.

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depression, failure, faith, honour, trump, trust, winning.

My blog is a year in the life of me, someone fighting cancer. The struggles that someone normal is faced with whilst fighting to stay alive and beat cancer. When I started ( or chose ) to write this blog called fonzandcancer I did not know I would beat cancer, I did not know what was ahead of me apart from the first fight with cancer which was hard enough. That was my only comparrisum to what I would face. This is an honest blog as I believe they all have been, but this one bears my heart and soul.

You see I have never thought of depression as a desease, I was prescribed medication for it some 17 years ago after marrying my first wife the year before and going through divorce a year later. I never took the medication. Some people chose to side with my ex wife. Since then I have chosen to walk a depression free path, thinking it is by my very choices that kept it all at bay. By my positive spirit in effect, dispersing the perhaps ever beating depression. That I was shining a light of happiness in a dark place which some call depression. Amazing isn’t it that although these thoughts are public, only a few read the very depths of my thoughts, either because they are worried what people will think (I don’t) or they want to learn what it’s like to face such demons, or perhaps it’s because you yourself have accepted that your doctor has told you your depressed and want to know if there is a way out.

  
Like with anything, only you are your way out, cancer is Evil and I suffer daily to maintain a positive outlook. (Why suffer) ?  Because only you can change what you choose to think, only you can choose to say positive things, and be a positive person believing in a positive outcome. 

For me at the beginning of my blog I believed without seeing that I would beat cancer. One person said last week my blog is religious because it’s about faith. The word faith means  ‘To believe without seeing’  on all American notes are the words “in God we trust” so believing by faith God is real even though he has not been seen. Well myself personally, I believe we see God in everything but that’s a whole new blog altogether. So for me  personally I believe I choose every day not to be depressed yet a doctor told me I was 17 years ago. 

  
When we fall we can collapse in a heap or get up, when we get up we are further ahead than we were before. A man called Ian Samuel taught me that some 24 years ago. It’s up to us to move forwards, it’s up to us to chose to move from where we are today. YOUR LIFE IS IN YOUR HANDS! Don’t waste what you have. Look at my poetry, I was told when I wrote heart of the ocean when I was 27 it was rubbish so I did not persue it. Now I don’t do it for anyone else just me, and I am finding others like it so I am choosing to carry on. Please choose to carry on, you have so much more to give the world and you won’t know what that is unless you follow your heart.

Enjoy finding out,

Fonz

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No idea what to write!

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berievment, journey, life, parents, wife, writers block

Never have I been so short of words, 

My dream last night made me wake in tears,

An empty feeling makes me lost for words,

I dreamt my dad had left this world.

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The realisation, perhaps from God,

That that day will come no matter what,

That our parents are here, but not for long.

The feeling of grief grips me still.

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I know it’s morbid to tell you this, 

But what I feel stays with me still,

The emotions feelings and fears I have,

Are there still today that’s why I can’t write.

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We’ve one life, and parents to,

If we have them still then we should smile.

Thank you both for giving me life,

Because of you I met my wife.

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Mark Blackwell  18/01/2016

I am sick of it!!!

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achievement, cancer, carryon, fight, happiness, poems, poet

All I seem to hear in days gone by,
Is how the evil has taken to many,
I don’t know how many times I will cry,
How many stars do we have to bury.

So much talent that has been taken already,
Cancer is the cause, it’s just so evil
People taken that are not even ready,
Because of the Evil that some call the devil.

It’s the knowing that we all leave with nothing,
No amount of wealth will sustain us against cancer,
Even if our life has meant something,
The end is the same in our answer.

So what can we learn from all of this sadness,
Maybe today is our last, who has the answer,
Please God help me to understand all this madness,
Please help me to live a life without cancer.
Written by

Mark Blackwell
http://www.fonzandcancer.com

Thanks for encouraging me to carry on 
Micheal33 thevisionofpoets  

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How dare you!

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beaten, cancer, cure, cured, death, love, lymphoma, stories

What do you want with me,
I was happy and free,
You come along to take me,
I refuse you can’t make me.

My life is my own, from seeds sown,
Your not my master, your just cancer,
Your idea maybe to take me,
But I can tell you, your not my answer.

There is no way I will allow a thief,
To come in the night and steal my life. 
For it is with one person I find relief,
That is not you, she is my wife!

I hope one day, you die forever,
That scientists find our answer,
Until that day we fight together,
To free this world from cancer!

Written by http://www.fonzandcancer.com

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My like party..

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Hear me out, I am after all new to this. I have an idea it has no rules, but this is how it works.

• Pick someone that’s liked a post on your blog, preferably someone you have not followed and they don’t follow you.
• Then find a blog you like and like it, and comment if you like.
• Repeat 3-5 times.
• Lastly share this idea
• That’s it but do it every day that’s possible.

Your blog will grow with people that have similar interests, and maybe some that are not. One thing is for sure though, your life will be enriched because you are encouraging someone. 

  
I hope you let me know how it goes for you.

Good luck,

Fonz

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She Fell. She Got Up. She Won The Race.

Seen this video before but, it’s encouraging every time I watch it…

Meet and Greet Weekend @ DBDO: 1/14/16

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It’s the Meet and Greet weekend at Dream Big!!  I hope everyone’s January is off to a great start! Ok so here are the rules: Leave a link to your page or post in the comments of this post. Reblog this post.  It helps you, it helps me, it helps everyone!  So don’t be […]
http://dreambigdreamoften.co/2016/01/15/meet-and-greet-weekend-dbdo-new-years-day-2016/
Great idea this, 

This was my blog today to.

Caregivers.  | fonzandcancer blogging daily to encourage.

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Caregivers.

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A care giver is so much more than the word suggests, caregivers are undervalued by society and not given the credit deserved. Care givers are actually the life that the sufferer needs, the hope and strength for a person to carry on. The job is possibly worse than the suffering in some cases. I can say that having been a carer as well. Helping someone to overcome physical trauma, as well as mental. A carer needs to be sensitive, courageous even knowledgable about the journey  ahead, whilst not overloading the person at the same time. Of course every care giver has to have different jobs, some patients want to know everything, and I mean everything. Whilst for me I needed a long term goal, whilst getting through today. That was always what mattered to me. TODAY…. Just that, knowing what I need to face today.

   
A caregivers emotions are a huge roller coaster, I mean after all they have to see what happens to their loved one as well as feel the fear inside as well as having to put trust in the health service that the doctors looking after their loved one, are doing the best that they can for them.! whilst understanding what the possible side effects of the drugs can be. Caregivers need a distraction, a support network that provide an outlet, where the questions like “How is xxxxx doing” are not included in the time with the person supporting them. Allowing the caregiver to bring it up should they wish. The key to getting through a battle of any kind is something that’s paramount in any struggle I think.

What ever the illness or situation the people find themselves in. The main thing to remember on both sides is ‘communication’ being able to tell each other how you feel. If you can do that, your half way there, the other important thing that breaks some relationships. Is the way the sufferer is, how angry they may become because of the drugs they are on, or the different situations they find them selves in. People change on medication. As if it was not hard enough for them  to deal with the situation in itself the persons personality changes as well. 

Carers are deserved of a high acalaide, for me my carer. “My wife” is responsible for my sustained life along of course with my mum who made me go and get it checked in the first place. But it’s the true care giver that deserves the praise it’s a journey of commitment, sadness and happiness. Freedom and light. I find some religious people choose to pray as opposed to doing something practical. I believe you cannot pray unless you are doing something practical. After all the bible states “Faith without works is dead” but that’s another blog altogether. 

  
If you are a believer or not it’s about what we do in life not what we say that matters. So many say the words, pray the prayers but don’t walk the walk. In other words a care giver, put their money where their mouth is and does. My wife’s mum had her mum live with her and the whole family for 18 years. Andie tells me of lots of happy memories of conversations she had with her nana. Caring for someone does not have to be all bad, but they are the ones that need the standing ovation when it comes to us coming through the other side victorious.

So I say thank you to all of you, that help so many.

Fonz

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Rain.

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Some people don’t like rain, it makes them wet they say.

 Don’t they know, just what that rain gives?

 It waters the plants that feed the birds, and us to.

Without the rain there would be no sun, 

without the rain the world would be dark. 

No flowers that bid us good day, 

tipping their hats as we strolled through the day.  

No singing birds as they wash in the rain.

No plants stretching. No trees creaking.

The rain is the start of life,and the end.

Rain sustains the planet, and our appetite.

Without the rain there would be no you.

There would be no me either.

Thank you rain!
Just put my thoughts out there, I wonder what you think? I have not re read, just posted.
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Mostly Blogging: Inspire Me Monday Linky Party #64

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Welcome to the Inspire Me Monday Linky Party for January 11, 2016! I hope you had an enjoyable holiday season. Happy New Year! Weekly Wrap Up On Tuesday my guest author wrote  Never Make Grammar Mistakes Again–How to Use Grammarly. It was a tutorial on how to use Grammarly so you never make embarrassing grammar […]

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There is beauty in everything.

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You have proberbly heard me say it before, that there really is beauty in everything. Whilst learning on my cancer journey, my whole mind set has changed. As a younger man teens and certainly in my twenties, I saw problems in problems. I saw what problems took from me as opposed to the wisdom that problems can give to us. 

You see for me, there are problems everywhere if we want to look at life like that. Let me attempt to exsplain. So somebody tells me I have an illness and it will take my life, without treatment. I have heard those words, I know it’s more serious for some people. But I am of the belief it’s not what we are told it’s our whole attitude to it that matters. A good attitude is found in relaxed people. It’s generally not found in the person that runs around like a headless chicken looking for problems. I for sure have my own demons I have to face, like anyone else I am not perfect far from it. 

The point is this it’s winter right now and there are no flowers in our garden, but I went out there and took some photos anyway just with this I pad I write this on now. I wonder what you think yo what I have taken.  

   
Funny isn’t it I didn’t notice before but I am not sure that lights much good full of water like that lol. That garden was a blank piece of grass. I will show you how it looked at the end of this blog, I could have done nothing with it just left it as it was and the dog would have still been happy with it as she is today. Why because our dog faith does not care what it looks like as long as she is with me or Andie. I see beauty in everything these days, that’s what cancer gave to me. Cancer made me change my attitude to everything I see. I no longer see a problem in a problem, I see solutions where I did not before. 

  

This is a border me and my friend Karl made.

  
If you have read all of my blogs you will have read how I was determined to get a piece of land the other day. Well this is how it looked 

  
A couple of days after that picture it looked like this.

  
It’s amazing walking in that small piece of land that I call a garden. But yet it could just be a brown piece of land, our lives even with cancer can have good come out of it, but you have to choose for something good to come of it. 

It’s strange you know, I can get emotional just because I can see all these things growing. Cancer has made me appreciate so much, people, plants, life, breath. Just life, some people are fortunate to know when thier life will end and dig in and gain more days purely by shear determination. For sure I am alive because I want to be, and everything I see fills me with a grateful heart. I ask you this question, and please comment. It’s nice for people to know your thoughts. What has life taught you?

Have a great day

Fonz

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Inspired by a new friend. (Only you can make a differance)

How truer statement has ever been made, only you can make a differance in your life. It’s all down to you, if your fit, Godly, a parent, a business person, a  person battling a desease, your weight. What ever it may be, only you the person looking back  can make the differance in your life, by allowing what ever is needed or removing what is not needed. You are in control of your destiny. As I read her first blog describing how she was a committed mother of 4 a happy wife, I could feel a tiger wanting to show itself. I did not feel she wanted to escape her life, just to find out what the purpose of her life is. Apart from the obvious bearing 4 children and giving them the love they needed, putting their needs first.

Whilst on my cancer journey, I have felt restricted. Confined  to a place where I had to be to recover, restricted as to what I could consume, do and realised that maybe I was not in control of what I was to become. What a load of crock that is, I mean I still had today to do what ever I wanted. When I was given a short time to live without treatment, for sure I could have given up. Shrugged my shoulders and lived my last days, I could have been as defeated as I felt. 

  
Me and my new friend have and had one thing in common, to be more than we are today. That our spirits are such that we want to find the us behind the practicalities of daily living. The reason why we were put here, some say it’s to procreate. Maybe it’s to do or achieve something else. What ever your conclusion persue it, never tire. Continue on until you feel you can’t any more. Then when you get there, start over and set yourself new goals. Your life is in your hands, by doing everyday means you are headed somewhere, and if your happy with that direction carry on. 

After all your destiny is in your hands

Fonz

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I Will But I Will NotSELF-REFLECTION DAY 4 I will not take life for granted, I won’t live in the past  I will live everyday to the fullest, as if it were my last I will not be afraid to fall in love, I’ll learn to let go I will overcome fear, and not let my pain show I will […]

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Only a wife can do this.

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I have been remembering a lot lately, and asked Cancer stories to think of a song that meant something to us all in 2016. This is the song my wife dedicated to me when I thought I was not able to carry on anymore.

When I imagined in my minds eye, what a happy home looked like. It never had cancer in it, there were pictures in my mind like. My wife sat on a window seat reading a good book, with rain running down the window pains. I imagined our cat out stretched in front of an open fire. Our Labrador cuddled up to me on the floor whilst I blogged, or wrote to encourage people around the world maybe. 

Well it’s not quite like that, my wife is reclined on the settee watching a favourite movie, I am writing in the other room and our Labrador is playing with my feet, oh and it’s raining outside. Makes me wonder why I have not made a window seat, maybe I should do.

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Only my wife can look across at me and tell me a thousand words with one look, only we have the 12 years exsperience of each other (nearly). As I write to you, or for you, I smile. I smile because I am able in the only way I know, tell you how it is, how I feel, what my dreams are and while they are not quite as I imagined them to be. I have to say I am really happy with the reality of what I have hoped for. While to have the reality we have, we now understand there has to be sad days to know what the good days are. To know how truly good, those good days actually are. I mean how can we know what the sweet tastes like with out knowing how sour really is.

Cancer may have done its best to evict me from the big brother house, but because of cancer I know how sour can really be. Therefore the sour being a gift to us all, being a benchmark as to how bad it can be. Making us appreciate what we have today, not what could be but the reality of our happy place. Love your now, now.

Fonz

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My story of determination, not illness!!

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My story of determination, not illness!!
There are a lot of people on this planet more determined than me I am sure of that. But you can only work with what you have right? The house that we bought had 2 land registry numbers because they had obtained a piece of land which make our home have a 360 degree perspective. We have 2 gardens now, it was not always the case.. I found as I was under going treatment the first time that due to the height of the trees in our nieghbours garden we had no sun what so ever in our back garden. The side garden was being made into an extension so there was no way we could get any sun there either. So I decided to get some more land, there was a large piece of grass attached to the house next door. 30 meters long and 10 meters wide. It belonged to a council house. The process started by me making a phone call to the office required, as I was on the phone I could see that the sun was blazing and the whole of that land was sun kissed.

  
At that time in my life I was having chemothearopy and dearly longed for a place in the sun where I could relax and feel the warmth of the sun on my face. The authority came out to see the land and I was told that I was not able to have the land in question. That’s when it started, because I am sure some people would have just accepted that and moved on. Not me though, I told them they would get an e-mail, phone call, or letter from me everyday until We had the land. So it started I was a flea in their ear, an annoying fly. It was difficult to manage as I was also wanting to keep them on side whilst also by this point trying to recover from my treatment and get the extension built at the same time. 
Every day I would make a phone call, or send that email, or send a letter. Always the answer was no, it was always you don’t need it you have a garden. On and on this went for 2 1/2 years until finally a team of people came and sprayed a yellow mark where I wanted the boundary to be. This boundary meant the owner of the council house still had a drive. They wrote to me and said it had gone to a 3 rd panel for another appeal. Remember this was a 2 1/2 year battle whilst also fighting for my life. You can’t imagine my elation when I was told that 3 letter word in the letter I received. I kept going out to the yellow marks they had put there.

  
Then came that day that I put the fence up, the day that would give us the space not only I needed but the dog to run up and down the long piece of grass. Especially on days where I could not walk due to the pain in my legs, it meant I could throw a ball down the garden for her and she would exhaust herself that way. That determination over a long period of time gave us the lifestyle we needed, the piece of land with sun on it. A place of relaxation contentment and joy, because of my tanasity and determination.
It’s like that for all cancer fighters, the ones that have to fight tooth and nail to become cancer free. All those people have a niggle every day that we have to live with though, the question will it ever return to attempt to ruin our lives again. We have to live with that, but it’s better to live with that than to have lost the fight. 
My friend is at the start of a family battle, and I want you to know. If it’s what you want I your life it can be so, do listen to the no find a way for there to be a yes. I know if you look hard enough, you will find a way for there to be a yes. If it was going to be easy, there would be no struggles and no joy at achieving what we have fought to achieve. No maybe I am not a financial success, but I most certainly have won the fights that have come my way. As a salesman I learnt that a no was one no closer to a yes.
Have a great week
Fonz
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Everything you read are based on my own experience and my own opinions. I express them here to encourage you. Please share with others, if it meant something to you it will to someone else. All images are from a Google search. Or my own.