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Throughout my life there have been many stages, but one lesson I would say is perhaps the hardest, or maybe took the longest. Was to learn to love myself, you see most people blame situations people, ( I was dealt a bad hand) my friend says it like. The people in the pub that have a woulda coulda story – if only it was not for such and such. Well it’s all a load of rubbish. Absolute BS. Our future is in our hands but unfortunately, if we don’t live ourselves we will find life is so much harder than it would otherwise be should we be happy with who we are. We have to become that person that when the person who is looking back, your content with. I am not saying the full article because no human is ever the ful article in my opinion. We learn until the day we die if always want to improve ourselves.
I personally want to better today than I was yesterday, I think they call it growing. Always learning and always becoming a better you. Let me put it this way, a house needs solid foundations to last. Without solid foundations there will be cracks in the plaster in time, bricks will move and the house will become unstable. Loving yourself is the foundation for everything we build on top of it, a relationship, the ability to live with your whole heart, holding down a good job, respect from others. No one will respect you if you don’t respect yourself.
I found the right person to marry because I had found myself in travelling Australia, yup that’s what it took for me. It was not till I was 36 and a broken marriage behind me that I became truly happy with the reflection in my mirror. Very late in life I would say, but at least I got there in the end. Cancer has honed me, made me a better more rounded person enabling me to see life through the eyes of a disability. The disability being the disabling treatments that my cancer demanded. In your life you will have your own challenges, but what ever happens in your life love the person who you are before you build a life.
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Fonz
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There was a typo on the 6th line, which actually was truthful. You wrote: “When we don’t live ourselves.” Of course, you meant love ourselves. But this also could mean that we don’t really live well without self-love.
Great post!
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Excellent, wise advice, Fonz!
It’s tough to love ourselves.
We can be our own worst enemy…and it’s wonderful when we can finally learn to be our own best friend. Not expect anyone else to meet our needs, especially our emotional needs. That we can learn to do that for us is amazing. 🙂
(((HUG)))
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The wisdom of the experience .
In friendship
Michel
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Well said. Inspirational.
We can often be our last own true foe. (I’ve been battling with ‘him/me?’ for best part of 55 years….nearly 65 I think he might be beat, no time for complacency though-chuckle)
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Lets see. I am 56. I have been “OK” with myself for about 2 years. For the remaining 54 years? I would have no problem dropping that person in a wood chipper. The good thing is, I’ve stopped having nightmares. My wife loves me, so that’s good enough for me.
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Reblogged this on fonzandcancer blogging daily to encourage. and commented:
Important blog this.
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Loving yourself is one of the best ways to thrive in life.
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I think I read a blog on that once.. 😉😉
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Very great post. We truly have to love ourselves to thrive and love others as well and by the way, 36 is not late in the day to find true love.
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