This blog has hardly been read, written when I was really poorly. I hope you like it.
The real you, the you that matters. All my life, I have tried to make people happy by adjusting who I am to make them happier. Turns out by doing that, all I have done Is succeeded in making myself unhappy. I wanted so badly to find the real me. The me I was happy with, the me I was never going to change. That’s why I went to travel Australia and New Zealand. To find the real me, to find contentment, to find the real me.
You see I know and knew I was a good person and my intentions were good. I had just adjusted myself so many times, that I was confused as to where in me I was. Then one day I made the most important choice of my life, best described in a picture I have used quite frequently in my blogs.
So that’s what…
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Hey Fonz, this is kind of what I meant: https://theonehandedclap.wordpress.com/2016/02/12/reblog-we-can-be-heroes/ thanks for your fab posts 🙂
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You are so right…so many times I do things that are really taking away from me…and no one understands why I’m miserable after…and why I get so offended and hurt that I’m being taken advantage of…now I try my best only to promise what I can do and what I only really want to do…most of the time…work in progress!
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Wonderful post, when we are ourselves, we are truly happy and are able to make others around us feel the same, it’s contagious !!!!!
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Beautiful 😊
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Let yourself be yourself and everything else will fall back to their respective place. 🌠
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If you change who you are to please others for long enough, eventually you’ll forget who you are. Be yourself, be the best you can be and be kind to others. That’s all anyone can ask.
Hugs
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I agree David, hugs bk.
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You know, that this is the eternal thin line that we all must tread
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Absolutely. 😊
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❤
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Because?
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Because I too am an obliger by nature… but I also know that if I don’t say no, then it is to my own detriment. So I told all my friends to not be offended if they don’t hear from me for a while, especially when I go off for a four day stint on my own and disconnect from public, just to regenerate, to reconnect with myself, and whatever life/nature is out there. I used to try to adapt to my ex boyfriends’ preferences, but I decided after the last failed relationship that I would no longer do that – if I have to adapt, then it means they don’t love me for who I am (such a Bridget Jones wish, to be loved “just the way you are”), and that is something I usually only get from my friends/family – acceptance of who I am. I also realised that I do not need others to validate my existence – I am the only person who matters; if I am happy, then that is all that is important. It is sometimes difficult recognising that I do not need validation from others, precisely because I am an obliger by nature, or it’s difficult trying to be patient and not have all those negative thoughts about oneself when things aren’t happening as fast as they should… but that is just me, wanting everything I don’t need just yet, and needing things that I hadn’t realised I wanted. So, from one obliger to another, I say well done and take my hat off to you 🙂
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Your awesome, thanks so much for that, xx
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