In our house we don’t celebrate Halmark day, the day that was made up by a card company to gain sales on a day that is 8 weeks after Christmas and 6 weeks before Easter. Halmark called this day Valentine’s Day. Now I suppose it’s great for the young ones that don’t know how to tell some one of their fondness for them. But it’s no secret that I love my wife, we have after all been in love for 12 years nearly. Over a hundred people came to our wedding, they all know we love each other to. So there is no secret Valentine here. I may very well buy her some roses when they are half price tomorrow though, that way Valentine’s Day has given me something.
I was laughing to myself as I saw married men with children buying flowers for their wives, at the inflated prices. Does it really matter, would it not be better to buy flowers because you want to, rather than on a day that your feel forced to because of a date. I hold my wife every single day and tell her she is appreciated and loved by me. I want her to feel wanted and loved everyday. She knows how I work, I can’t stand feeling I have an obligation to do, forced to do. I do because I want to do.
I feel sorry for the people that are made to feel awkward because they did not follow the expectations of society. I do not feel awkward in any way. Love should be shown everyday not just on Valentine’s Day. I mean would the money not be better spent on something other than flowers on 14th of Feb. Or like me will you buy flowers if they are cheap enough after the shops have made the shops have made their money from the folk that paid the inflated prices.
Surely loving because you want to is better than feeling you have to show it. As I said I think it has its place for youngsters who have a secret admiration for someone and don’t know how to break the ice. But not for us marrieds.
I look forward to the varied responses the world has to my thoughts in this post. Oh and happy Sunday.
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sheldonk2014 said:
I made cards and wrote the poems in them
I do it all the time
It makes my heart sing
Sure I’ve done it the other way too
But I love to make her stuff the most
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fonzandcancer said:
Haha I used to own run and publish cards gift wrap and all sorts of other stuff. Just fight cancer at the moment but I did by Ā£30 of Valentine’s flowers for Ā£10 today X… š
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Sha'Tara said:
Needless to say (there’s an oxymoron!) I agree with your valentineless approach to “love.” And roses? If I had to buy roses for everybody “special” in my life, I’d be buying over 7 billion bouquets – and that’s a bit steep, never mind finding all those addresses: I’d have to hire Santa Claus and who knows what he charges when he’s dragged out of hibernation. Fortunately it’s still winter so there shouldn’t be much of a problem with the reindeer. But, would the roses freeze in an open sleigh? So much to think about, so little time… thanks for the great read, Fonzie…
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fonzandcancer said:
What a lovely person, and a fun response. Everyone needs a bit of fun with love and care in your spirit. Big smiles and hugs š
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Advanced Research Technology said:
We don’t celebrate Hallmark day in our house either. So I congratulate you on your awareness that love is an everyday thing and somewhat spontaneous. There is no pressure ever to find love if we leave it in the hands of the One that knows our hearts better than ourselves.
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fonzandcancer said:
I smile from ear to ear my friend. šš·cheers.
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Kathryn Grace said:
Like you, I don’t care to follow “traditions” devised to encourage us to spend money. But I was a child so very long ago that Valentine’s Day has always felt like a special day to me, long before I knew about imported roses as fat as softballs and dinner reservations in crowded fancy restaurants.
Perhaps it’s because I love red so much, or because I like the opportunity to find a special way to say I love you, but I do tend to acknowledge Valentine’s Day n small ways, not necessarily buying the commercial hype, but making a little cake perhaps, that I know is a favorite, to show that the spark still, well, sparks.
Today we’re doing something we haven’t done in years–Going on a date to a movie theater to see an art film we know we’ll both enjoy.
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fonzandcancer said:
Kathryn what ever works for you is the right thing to do, I really hope you have a lovely time. My wife made me sponge buns today.. Loved them š
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dizzylizzie72 said:
My husband and I do nothing special on Valentine’s Day. I don’t even need the on sale, the next day, flowers. I truly do not care for holidays. Oh, shame on me. You are right, every day is the day to be in love or tell someone you love them. There, I said it and a lot of those that follow the crowd will think I am unusual. I am! lol
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fonzandcancer said:
I am not able to follow the crowd Liz. I am made differently, that’s what different is. Just not the same. I think not being the same is a wonderful way to live… š
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dizzylizzie72 said:
Amen to that one Mark. š
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speedyrabbit said:
Hope you both have a happy Valentine’s Day,xx Rachel and Speedy
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fonzandcancer said:
Have a great day Rachel, and thank you xx
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syl65 said:
Everyday we should hold love in the highest regard. Great post, Mark!
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fonzandcancer said:
Thanks very much for your kindness, just nipping over to your blog now. š
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syl65 said:
You’re welcome and thank you! š
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mopana said:
Warm greetings for Valentine’s Day!
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fonzandcancer said:
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