There are some things that will never be, like you will never be the person you were yesterday. The you that you are today really is the only you that there is, so many people look at what they were and want to be that person again. Hey I did the same myself, thought that I would get Mark back become the old me. Funny though isn’t it, I am 47 now and I will never be 47 again, I will never be the me that was me today tomorrow, all I can be is the best I can be today. The way I do that is by loving, caring, and giving what I can to as many people as I can everyday. Now when I was 37 I was certainly more physically able, I need to stop thinking that whilst I could that I still can. Because I am a different me now. One that had cancer.
It’s all very well me saying CAN all the time, maybe there is a new can though. A CAN that’s still useful but not the same as what I used to be at 37, when cancer was just something someone else gets, not me. A word that I had no knowledge of, chemotherapy was something I had no picture to put in my thought box of. I had no clues back then, I was indestructible and going to live forever. Die, me… Never.. Maybe you have been there?
Now life is different, because rather than expecting a day and taking it for granted. I am grateful for a day, and appreciate the small things in life! Like birds singing, fresh air. NOT having to goto hospital till August this year. That’s part of the 47 yr old Me. I have stopped expecting to be the fit 37 yr old me, because that was then and this is now. I am now on a day to day plan. Enjoying the day set out before me to the best I can, doing the best I can, for as many people I can. I am not unhappy to be that, I am really pleased to have some life to live that I might give to someone today.
Your attitude to life and people is what counts, not what you were or what you hoped you would be, that’s not possible because of illness. That just leads to an unhappy life, striving for something that’s impossible. Happiness is knowing you are the best you can be, with the available you that you are today. By having a grateful heart, and attitude to life. Breeds happiness and ultimately, contentment. Rather than self endured stress, trying to be the old you.
Accept a new and better you is you tomorrow, that the past is just that. Take an X, why are they an X. Because they made your then now not the best now there can be. Enjoy your new now today.
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This is a lovely post. Thank you for sharing this xxxx
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Thank you for reading 😊
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You got me thinking because I was recently wishing that my body was like it was about 10 years ago. I was stronger, a bit (😉) thinner and didn’t have the long term effects of endometrosis. But really, I should be grateful for all I have. I am not the same but I can change my reaction to things. Thanks a lot 😙😙😙😙
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It’s so so nice to get feedback that a blog means something to you, thanks for letting me know it’s encouraging. 😊
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This is a lesson for all, not just for cancer sufferers. We must all accept what is, not what may have been once and cannot be again. Well done to you for accepting that you are a different you, and being happy with that.
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That’s kind of you to say thank you 😊
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Coming to this truth about myself and my condition. It really hit me for the first time…fully…yesterday. It was so rough. Seems like as soon as I realize I will make it through the last loss…I have another something…I must face, accept and surrender it to God. But the flesh is weak.
But you have had a little more time to process this area. And gain perspective. My writings usually evolve in a similar manner. But this right here…with my health and physical limitations…I am just now beginning to face, acknowledge and process.
Thank you for sharing. 🙂
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Erin, whilst my writings are born from God using my hands to say his words. As you say it took time to process and you will need that to. The reality is of everything I write is. There is a reason no matter what we thing for us facing the situation that we face as long as we are open to be used for his Glory. 😊
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No matter how hard our day is, we should always be grateful.
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Always… 😊
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Thank you for following me. This post does resonate some with me; I don’t have cancer but I do have fibromyalgia (not the same, obviously, but I have found that it has changed my perceptions of what I am capable of). I’m still working on finding the balance between letting go of the old me and reaching for the stuff that I’m still capable of. It’s a daily battle for me, finding that line. Thank you for this post.
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Thank you dear friend, it’s always good to find that we are (lion king) we are more than we have become. You without doubt have found the inner you in you. That’s amazing, because some people just give up. 😊
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Well written. It is all about the present me now.
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Perfectly put.
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Very good post Mark. All any of us can do is live the life dealt to us at this moment.
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Very inspiring. 🙂 Me? I’m living my life like there’s no tomorrow.
Thanks for checking out my blog, by the way. 🙂 Love & blessings!
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Thank you very much 😊
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A lovely and inspiring my friend. Live in the moment and be all you can be. There is a Scottish folksong with a line in it that I constantly quote, lol. “Where the cares of tomorrow can wait, till this day is done.” I do get accused a lot of being a “manana manana” person but chores and worries will still be around tomorrow, so I try to live day by day.
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Be you that’s what I say, not a you someone else is a happy with a you that you are content with 😊
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