When I was dating, I found 50 shades of grey. I found more than that, I found so many shades. But why do people think that sex is a shade and maybe even the main shade. Let me suggest to you that, what you think sex is. Is actually only a part of a shade of a possible shade of life. You see love only has one shade, it has one meaning. The world would have us believe that there is so many more ways to love using our sexual being. Yet it’s only skin deep. Here is a thought that’s as deep maybe deeper than you have thought.
If there are 50 shades of grey and it’s made up of black and white, is grey a colour. Because black and white are not colours so where did grey come from? Let’s assume me and you are doing our best to find out what love is. That maybe a walk on the beach, a kiss, or a cuddle is what we deem as love.
For me, when I got married I did not take one aspect of life and love that as my life. I did not perceive life as being glued by one in particular thing that I liked. My love for my wife and hers for me is about 2 letters US. It’s about us, it’s about freedom for us both, allowing or rather wanting each other to have and be the best we can be on all levels. It’s not about being a great lover, a great cook, a great person. It’s about one thing. Balance. Balance in OUR lives that we live TOGETHER. Marriage is about together. And loving being together and working at being together knowing that we are both pulling together in the same direction. Stop being hung up on one singular aspect of a relationship.
There is only one shade of love. Guess what, that one aspect, is called love. That right there is how you use something that is supposed to make life distructive, constructive. You can be what ever you want to be if only you understand that life together has only one shade and that’s called loving each other. Just love who you are with today, give what you have, don’t hide what you could have given. That is not selfless. A relationship is about being together and working together. When you do that, things happen. The things that do happen matter to.
Just saying.
Fonz
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Great post Mark. It’s definitely about working together. X
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Well done with this post, Fonz.
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I always think it works best when the 2 feel like it’s the 2 of them against the world. And they work to protect that unity during the good, bad, and ugly of life.
Congrats on your love and marriage! 🙂
HUGS!!! 🙂
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I love this. It re affirms why I am getting married in June x
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Beautiful testimony about marriage and love . This must be said.
In friendship
Michel
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You are a beautiful writer.
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Beautiful post xx
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Well, let’s see. I’ve been married to the same beautiful person for over 40 years. We’ve had our ups & downs but we’re still together. Many of our married friends have fallen by the wayside and have gotten divorced. Now they are scorned by their family and church. My Soul mate and I are so very Blessed. The Goddess only wants us to take care of each other and be happy. How very sad that some should choose to be married in front of a God who does not know the quality of mercy and who elevates man above woman. We ask our Lord & Lady to show these poor souls solace and vision, so they may find their way back into the light of love and happiness. So Mote It Be.
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Not only balance but also compromise and adjustment to make togetherness work.
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You totally understand the post xx
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