Cancer changes lives by there becoming a new normal. Some may even say that normal does no exsist after you have been touched by cancer. I don’t know about that, but what is a very real fact …
Life’s normal until something changes.
18 Monday Apr 2016
Posted in Cancer
fonzandcancer blogging to encourage. 
Depression, like a lot of things, is difficult to perceive unless you have suffered with it. Depression is something that has been very real throughout my life. I choose to fight it. It’s a struggle every single day.
I’ve never had the treatments that you have endured even though I have been subjected to a few invasive procedures.
I think that I have a small understanding of what you have faced and can understand how it changes your perception of normal life. A so called normal and uneventful life is possibly one of the richest experiences available to mankind.
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There’s a Chinese saying that states that life is perceived in 3 ways: by oneself, by another person and BOTH oneself AND that other person TOGETHER. How normal depends on how one perceives it to be especially if it is based on cultural norms. But I do agree with you that any form of change will change that perception of normalcy to any certain degree.
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U are very intelligent. 😊
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I humbly accept your compliment. I learned this saying when I took a Philosophy course in college and it helps me stay focused on the here and now. Keeps me grounded.
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Life is inherently a lot like cancer. It shows us how very fragile the Human experience can be. How fleeting it is. And what a stellar gift each day we get to enjoy life is. Even on our worst days, it can still coax a smile from us. It also leaves me with a sense of awe. People are amazing. As inconsequential and meek as we are compared to the rest of the Universe, when confronted with a challenge, we still step up and say “Bring it on”. Like somehow we are larger than life. Normal is way over rated! Fortitude? Now that’s more my cup of tea! I cannot and don’t want to contemplate a life without challenges, good or bad. Seems like that would be one very long and boring daydream. That things happen in our lives that make us take that “step back” and think, “Do I really need or not need this in my life”. I am big on taking that “step back” these days. I used to be a little more impetuous! To many hard landings from not looking before I leap! I do not think of myself as living in a “new” normal, just a “better” one. Learning is fun! 🙂
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Once again, a very insightful post! From my own experience, I say things change, and they absolutely should. “Normal” is a strange word! In some ways it conveys the comfortable, routine, that helps you keep things under control. On the other hand, it can mean stagnation, and unwillingness to make necessary changes to improve your life, whether physically or mentally. As we age, hopefully we use our experiences to learn and grow, meaning that “normal” is going to change anyway, even if we don’t notice it.
Things you learn during cancer: pacing yourself, making yourself think positive thoughts, using meditation techniques daily to help in healing (mind over matter is powerful in many diseases!), renewed sensitivity and appreciation of our spiritual life and relationship to God, changing our eating habits (cutting out all sugar- the big cancer feeder, getting away from all that chemical stew that the food industry serves you, and going natural, focussing on vegetables, anti-oxidant foods, etc.), embracing regular gentle exercise, being out in nature, etc, etc.
The big danger in recuperation is “getting back to normal” – trying to do all the busy stuff we did before, thinking now we don’t have to be so precise about our food intake, etc. That can take us directly back to where we were when we got cancer in the first place. I’ve noticed this backsliding in myself where I am trying to get caught up with all the stuff I missed.
I’m currently waylaid by a totally different situation at the moment, not as devastating as cancer, but it has given me pause to think about how I’m dealing with this, compared to the cancer.
There needs to be a “new normal” as they say. It happens each moment as you decide whether you will put that particular enticing sugary piece of food into your mouth or not, whether you will let that negative thought sit there, or if you will replace it with a positive one. The “new normal” requires total mindfulness, not in a stressful way, but actually it becomes very relaxing and enriching. Of course it’s easy for me to write this now because I have been reminded and forced to review this; now I just need to go and practice what I’ve preached… 😉
I can tell you though, that from yesterday when I was confronted with this by a wonderful friend, and today as I got up, I could sense the shift in my mind already helping my body thus far. I pray for you and me and others suffering adversity, that we can remain strong and overcome! 🙂 Blessings!
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Why do I feel like I should know who you are?
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It’s called “kindred spirits” I think! 🙂 It’s a wonderful world when we can cross all age and geographical boundaries, isn’t it? Blessings! 🙂
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Absolutely, feel free to mail me when ever you like. Are you in Facebook? I would like to be of help to you in your future. I want nothing in return just that you are encouraged through your journey. 😊
In friendship
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