Never thought about that until today, I read a blog this morning about someone’s son who was self harming . They went on to say how when he was feeling down he always wanted to tell someone else to tell them how he was feeling. I started to ponder this morning what had driven me through the cancer journey, that my drive had been to remain positive even when faced with losing my life. I think misery is a thief, I think it’s something infectious that’s not healthy in any way to any party. But how do we get rid of misery, how do we turn misery around. Well here is what I think about it.
It’s our choice to smile, our choice to shine a light in the darkness. Whilst I am not perfect by a long way I do realise that a smile can remove misery in an instant, it’s what we choose to have in our lives. What we allow through the gates so to speak. We can actually change what another chooses but shining light in the darkness smiling when someone is sad. How ever we choose to be there is someone out there that wants to be in to company of you. A smile is infectious, a hug warms a heart, like misery clouds our day so you can choose to be what ever you want to be. Your life is full of choices, full of oppertunity or if you so choose it can be full of things you have to endure.
Each and everyday I have a huge amount of pain, walking is an issue until my pain killers have kicked in. I so want to cry with it most days, but you all know what I choose to do MOST of the time. Smile, be happy to have the opportunities that I do, because I have a life and of course in that life there has to be some positives. But that’s up to me right, that’s my choice to look for something good in a day or wallow in the misery that takes no effort what so ever. Everyday we have been somewhere on this holiday. Some hours are really tough to get through, even so we are making memories and enjoying what we have together. Not allowing misery to have any company, those words still ring true in my head. “You are more than you have become” because you are, I am and we can choose to be more than we have become or allow the circumstances we find ourselves in to dictate our day.
My choice is to do no matter what, no matter what situation I am in. It’s better to do or be something than to just accept what ever the situation is that we find ourselves in. You CAN be what ever you want to be, but that choice is yours.
Fonz
Once again, you have hit upon the truth. If we let misery get to us, it will spread, as will a smile, so you’re right to choose the smile however much you’re hurting.
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Cheers Chiz x
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Should say Chris š
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I don’t know why but this post touched me on a very personal level right from the title.
Thank you Fonz. With the much you have passed through compared to the little I am going through, I wonder why I allow misery to enter into my abode at all.
You are great
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That’s so very kind of you to say thank you..
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Keep smiling, keep shining the light.
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What a beautiful message of hope. Thank you!
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Key word in all this is choices….we all have them and where we end up mentally is down to making them rather than avoiding making them and spiralling into a default mode that propagates same old same old and eats up motivation. Each phase of that makes making a choice to return harder.
Exemplar again Mark..or is it Fonz? Hell of a strong will to fight this and kick misery in the butt….
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Thank you for your honesty and inspiration!
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Indeed, I grew up hearing that phrase and it is true. Misery loves company. Unfortunately, when you are clinically depressed or have another of the varied mental illnesses out there, the blackness tries it`s damndest to suck you down. I have Borderline Personality Disorder, (manic depression), and I hear voices but I have learned through sheer determination and many frightening years to tell them to go to hell when they start their carry on. They don`t like that and I always end up smiling now. Misery loves company but I`m with you on this one, life, and a smile is always a better companion.
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This post sounds like you are speaking to yourself and giving a pep talk. I just want to acknowledge that it sounds like you are going through hell and it isn’t easy. I admire how you strive to stay positive, but my heart goes out to you.
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Happiness, my dear, is always a choice. š Cheer up!
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I am happy, v happy š
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You’re very correct. I try to smile daily. Some days are easier than others… š
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I totally agree. X
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