U can be who you want to be, that’s what I tell my wife. Some words I may have said before but I know that what I write now will help someone today or sometime in the future. I have not been here for a while, I apologise. I have been helping my good friend to errect my conservatory. I have spoken before in my last post about impossible, that the only part of impossible that stops it big possible is the I’m in the word. Is not the only person that matters holding your past against you. Is, erm you? Is it not you that’s giving you a hard time maybe feeling guilty for your past, something you did or did not do? One thing I do know is that what someone else’s opinion is is both nothing to do with you, and nothing to do with them. Let go what someone else thinks about you, what you are is in your hands and your past does NOT define your future.
Your future starts in the next hour, the next afternoon. But always today, your future does not start tomorrow. You are the one that chooses who you are. You also chose what you were, but that’s not a part of your future , only if you want it to be. Your past is in your hands, it’s up to you yo hold on to it or let it go. It’s up to you to let your past mood you and benifit your future. No one is to blame for your future, only you. Don’t start yo tell me yes but such and such and this and that, you choose what happens next. You really do, don’t be a head hanger. Hold your head up high and keep moving forwards, keep believing in yourself and keep doing.
Believe me I could show you pictures of me that say I want to give up, I could tell you stories of how cancer has made me want to check out, how I have thought badly of myself because of who I was and what I did. Trouble with that is that people will believe what ever it is you believe of yourself and there are plenty of people willing to be negative about you out there so why actually be one yourself. Be good to you, say good things about you. Above all do good to others every day of your life, that’s really important. Use your life, don’t regret your life.
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youthfoodblog said:
Agree, we should all accept who we are, not what we were or supposed to be.
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Woebegone but Hopeful said:
Hi Mark.
By your writings and your courage you are an inspiration to us all.
Best wishes
Roger
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fonzandcancer said:
Thanks Roger 😊
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Louise Pare-Lobinske said:
Thanks for this, Mark. I am struggling with depression today: We had the shooting in Orlando on the 12th, and there was a vigil in Tallahassee (near me) yesterday, but i couldn’t make it, and then I had a bad dream last night, and it all adds up to a funk I have been struggling to get out of. But I believe in myself, and you’re right, my past is not my future, so I do have a little bit of hope. Thank you.
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fonzandcancer said:
Here is another post to help you through this tough time. X
Love yourself. | fonzandcancer blogging to encourage.
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Eric said:
Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. And today? Today is a GIFT. That’s why we call it the present.
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fonzandcancer said:
I have written about that 😍
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Judy said:
Thanks for writing this, Mark. I struggle with chronic pain (dry eyes) and have learned how to live with it. It isn’t easy for me to accept how it is rather than wish for how it once was.
If you could do this with cancer, surely I can. I want to take my focus off my condition and look at all the other wonderful parts of my life. It’s a challenge, but I don’t want to waste my life wishing for things in the past. There’s so much I can do despite this. Great words, as always.
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fonzandcancer said:
Thanks so much Judy, I to suffer with chronic pain. Nerve pain, I have found the only way to deal with it is to do anyway. Something gets done then at least, I am glad you got something out of the blog today that would never have been written had I not been encouraged to by Eric. Thanks again Judy your comment has encouraged me. Thank you.
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Judy said:
I’m sorry you have nerve pain, Mark. You’ve been through hell and back.
Keep writing! I am encouraged reading your positive words, knowing you truly live what you have shared from your heart.
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fonzandcancer said:
Thanks Judy xx
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Eric said:
Mark. Your words are very powerful. Too often we let the past dictate our future. I need to stop looking back over my shoulder to what I used to be and learn to accept the new me. Jings. It’s been 10years looking back at what I once was. It’s like a prison, but I hold the key to get out. It’s just about changing my mindset from STOP to Go For IT! Please keep blogging as you nail it most days. Hope to see you at some stage in the near future. Love and best Wishes to all. Eric
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fonzandcancer said:
Hi Eric, you know I would not have written this if I did not read the e-mail you sent me so, maybe this blog was written for you without me even knowing. Because I started writing it 123 days ago. Thanks for encouraging me my friend, and I really do hope we make time for each other soon
There is an old saying “if someone really wants to see you they will make time.”
I know we will this year, why because we can.
Fonz
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