Is your today, like my today. 13 months after transplant and I am still feel pain from my treatment yet no one asks how I am. Just the empty question. “How are you”? Gets asked yet they don’t really want to know really you start to tell them and they glaze over. I have learnt this in my journey. To be selective in who you choose to be a friend. I used to be the first to the bar and the last to buy a drink. Now I value my time with people, love, help, comfort, enjoy, but above all respectand consider who I am with. I don’t expect anything from them, but it’s nice to be loved in what ever way they see fit.
We are not well in this house at the moment, but one thing is for sure. My wife will always want to be close to me and so will my wife. Cancer has ripped so many people off and I am determined that after fighting for 7 years that cancer will not dominate any more of my life except in a good way.
I want yo encourage people facing chemo, operations, what ever it is in cancer that there is and has been more than that. There is a boy I love called Mitch, I have watched his brave journey and prayed for him. In my mind it’s not about judging what someone was. But hopping who they could be. Mitch won. He had cancer in his head, had brain surgery yet he lives and encourages those in life that need it instead of saying. “What about me” what about you really. Should you not be doing?
For me life is about what we do do, what we don’t do is something that will never be a part of your history just what you could have been.
Fonz
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It was lovely to meet you and your wife (and adorable dog) at Rufford Old Hall today. Your story is inspirational.
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That’s kind Joanna thank you. Your miraculous story was talked about after we met you and we thanked God together for your healing. 😊 your a lovely couple and you both have encouraged us to be parents. Your daughter is so gorgeous 😊
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Thank you😃😃. I can 100% recommend being a parent. It’s a dream come true. I was very fortunate that a melanoma on my leg was caught quickly and removed. Had it not been for that I wouldn’t have had the Mri that found the benign pituitary tumour and I would never have had a reason for the long struggle to have children. I feel truly blessed to be a mum and the support you are offering people through your blog is fantastic.
Thank you
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That’s a lovely heart warming story, we are looking into it after next cycle. You may have started a new journey for us. Thank you re my blog. Which ones have you read. ? The end is quite a insightful post. 😊
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😃😃reading it like a good book. I’ve read the end now have then gone back to the beginning. When silly o clock feeding times are taking place I’m sure I’ll catch up. 💤💤
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Aww I look forward to seeing more comments in the future. I have added your I cloud email to my contacts if you ever want to send an e-mail. 😊😎
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As usual, great post. It’s hard not to ask the “why me” question – but it’s never been helpful for me. Why not me?
I’m just grateful for all I can do and you said it beautifully!
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Judy I am so glad your in my life reading my blogs. You encourage me. Thank you.
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It’s easy to do that because your writing is all from your heart and honest. You have been through hell and are here to encourage others.
I learned so much from a dear blogging friend who encouraged me – I counted on her to always have something uplifting to say about what I wrote. She died 6 months ago from heart disease. I miss her so very much. But she lives on with what she taught me. Encouragement is something the world needs more of.
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So very sorry to hear about your friend. I have dedicated my life to helping other people in my life everyday. The first thing I do everyday is answer all my messages from people suffering and supporting others all around the world. It’s my mission to do something positive everyday in this world so full of hate. Maybe like your friend you can find what you need here and I will also learn from you what your friend taught you. You have a friend right here when you need one. X
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Aw, thanks, Fonz. I feel very touched and fortunate. You are a wonderful friend to have!
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I am here for you when ever you need a friend 😊
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Fonz –
I really love that quote – and have lived it – and instead of expecting family members or friends to do such and such – I have come to see who God has placed in my life as a support system – or as you noted – who I can support and maybe send a splash of love to…..
And sending you a blog high five – congrats on 13 months after the transplant – my mom is coming up on her ten year ann for a kidney transplant!
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That’s amazing for your mum, what a lady. You must be so proud and why not 😊
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yes- and she actually had a second transplant – the first one did not take – oh =-but too long of a story – and yes – very grateful for the tech we have today – and I am sorry for all that you and your wife have had to endure – 🙂
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It’s made me a more cocidered person 😊
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ope you have a nice weekend
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The same to you to, I think we are off with the dog for a Sunday lunch and a real ale.
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enjoy –
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