Pain, and Christmas.

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Pain, and Christmas

I guess this should be a merry Christmas post, or happy something or other if your religion is that of those that consider Christianity and Christmas non exsistant or offensive. Good news it’s not, it’s about pain. It’s about the people that never asked for pain, they never did a stunt and broke a leg, or tried to commit suicide. Although some have, but that’s another blog. This is about people that are not able to escape from their demon PAIN!

Pain really  screws up your day, makes things that seem simple to others impossible once it takes hold. You do your best to be as normal as possible. Yet no matter what you do outwardly it never disappears. Only those that know pain know what I mean. You wake up with it and go to bed with it. It never dissapears. It’s not like a pin prick, or a broken limb, it chips away at you never ever resting. Until you have had enough and it does not matter that it’s the time of year, or the love you are supposed to feel. It’s just about doing the best you can. You smile so others feel good. I mean, no one is ever interested in what’s going on with you really are they “Snap out of it” “smile ” they say. 

Well I just want to say, sometimes words that I never normally want to say. F…K Y.U have a little understanding by putting yourself where they are. But you can’t can you? because you don’t understand. Please don’t glance over what a pain suffer feels, what we feel is as important as a child. Only we don’t get to take our pain away for the evening, to have a meal without it. We just have it, and nothing we do will enable us to escape. We are trapped by a consuming fire, chemo can cause permanent damage. I have that, it grinds you down and you feel useless, and extremely worthless. Yea some people say ” great life you don’t have to work ” I laugh. Because I do work in lots of ways. Just do no matter what is my advice. But above all else, be honest. If the person speaks about themselves in response. Well you know, and I know they are trying to understand. It’s not their fault really. Give those that don’t understand a prayer this Christmas. Of course pray for al, those in pain this Christmas, they really do matter. 

Bless you all

Fonz

Merry Christmas

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Today is today, because of our past. ‘Don’t despise it’

Today is today, because of our past. ‘Don’t despise it’

Neither today or your past, neither should be despised. Learned from maybe, proud of, possibly. Satisfying, hopefully. Some things in life we have to watch or hear many times before the penny drops. It gives me great pleasure to see fulfilment in people’s lives. It brings me satisfaction, like the home we live in brings me satisfaction.  It’s a great feeling to know that you have overcome to get to the place you are today. People have said to me. Don’t look at the past, it’s there for a reason. I listened to them sometimes, and concentrated on the future. But a wiser older me, makes me appreciate what has led me to today, because without every single part of what was today would not be the today that it is. 

How easy it is to think what ifs. Of what benefit are they to the day we live today. Today is so much more important than anything else, enjoying today and being satisfied in our today. Be happy that you have had the path you have had, there is no reward in thinking you wasted your life. You did what you thought was right, others made choices in their life also and they became what they have and they also have to satisfied or regret, that they are or are not.

What I love about this life we live is that we have a new chance at life every single day, and whilst I accept I have had some pretty horrendous days in my life, those seriously bad days have made me who I am today.  Things are great, and if they don’t make you satisfied then they are of no benefit. Things may enhance the life we live, but ultimately it’s your attitude to what has been that will make a differance to your what will be. Today, is all that there is. There will be no tomorrow on this earth, only the today we live. Whatever you believe, what ever the name you call our God. Learn from your past, remember your past as lessons you learn from. 

The picture comes to my mind again

The bird sat in its nest above a raging waterfall. Yet it’s happy, content and not phased at all by the raging waterfall below. Seemingly unconcerned by the danger below, just content with where she is at that moment accepting of the place she has. It’s not so much the journey and what it consisted of, that led you to where you are today. Rather that you yourself are happy within yourself. People will always decide to do what ever they will do, if we are content and happy with the decisions we have made. The waterfalls around us will have little effect on our own happiness.
Have a great day
Fonz

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Everything you read are better based on my own experience and my own opinions. I express them here to encourage you. Please share with others, if it meant something tou you it will to someone else. All images are from a Google search. Or my own, taken whilst creating memories every day.

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