Why are they my X.

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Strange isn’t it, why people get so upset at not being with a partner anymore. I mean let’s look at why they are and X. We are not talking about x’s that became that because they breathed their last breath. We are talking about why it ended, why there is no we anymore. I guess at some point in this post I will start thinking about my own X’s but I want to look at the reason people are not with someone, not people I was with personally. It’s the same with friends though don’t they become X friends. After all is not a relationship first, it is a friendship first and foremost.

 Think about the people in your life, think about what they mean to you, the sort of things you do when you are with them. I bet most of those images involve laughter. I would even go so far as to say, if you have a picture in your mind that’s sadness or solum.   It’s either because of illness or selfishness, so many people in friendships want a friendship that benefits them. There is actually nothing wrong with that as long as they give as much to you as you do to them. Two way so to speak. 

  
I have X friends since I got cancer, people that found it to on sided to help me through cancer because they were getting nothing in return. As my wife says often, true friends are the ones that push the limo when it breaks down. We can all enjoy the moments in life where it’s all going swimmingly, but true friendship is shown in hardships.  A true reflection of a true friendship is that you accept the person for who they are no matter what. That who ever they are you don’t want to change, and You don’t ever say sentences like. “If you were” “if you just did” a true friend accepts you for who you are. 

Being in a relationship is not just about looks, shape, aspects you like and dislike, Chemistry, it’s about acceptance of where someone is at, I have not thought about an X once whilst writing this. Because me and my wife have everything we need in each other, even though there may be the odd thing that winds me up and I am sure that there are many more from me to her. But we accept each other no matter what. An X would be someone that did not accept you and I bet they wanted to change you, or you wanted to change them. Life is so much happier when you can accept your friend for who they are, and not want to change them.

  

Just remember this, if they are an X it’s because they did not make your life easier. They wanted you to be a you that was not you. Now that would not be you now would it. So be happy they are an X because you learned what not to have in your future friendship or relationship. It was good that that became an X and in your future will be someone who accepts you without wanting you to be someone different.

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A walk with Faith. Or a walk by faith?

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My whole journey has been a walk by faith really, a walk by faith being; my walk believing without seeing that God would provide the tools I needed to get through the Cancer journey. As I was sat there today, I realised that if I did not get a move on I would just have to do our normal walk that me and Faith do. ( faith is our dog ) I wanted to take her somewhere different today. Somewhere neither of us had been. So I had to neglect my blog today, I have been working hard reaching out to as many people as possible while I have been recovering. The pain in my legs is horrendous sometimes, so pain killers downed and off we went to parblold hill and walk by a stream. Here are some pictures I took whilst we walked.

  
As I walked through the woods, I slowly realised that I was on a journey that although completely different to my cancer journey I was actually realising the journey was quite similar. Are you ready for the similarities? So as I walked I saw deep water, and some that was running quite fast. I remembered how it felt trying to keep my head above water, treading water whilst doing my best get to the next stage.

 
Faith was with me

  
  And I could see in the distance a bridge across the water that was so hard to wade through, the water being the chemo and the bridge being my stem cells being transplanted which gave me hope that cancer would not come back. On the journey we saw trees that were broken and snapped beyond repair. That’s how it felt at times, just “Broken” just that.

  

This one really hit Home and even called the picture “Broken”  the thing that I got from this was, that once we are broken, we are never the same again. The thing that broke us did that, we become new that’s true. But what does new mean,mwell for some it may mean living life without a limb if your a soldier, living life without someone you loved. 

  
Even though that was a painful part of my journey I walked on, the pain was like shards of glass cutting my feet as I walked. Yet I smiled, I smiled because I knew that even though there was a broken point, perhaps many I was still able to see a new view. Why because I carried on.

  
It really was like my cancer journey was being played out on this walk. Like I was being shown what was and what is. That yes there have been struggles, pain even loss. But there is a new way ahead now and by faith I must believe that the path is already laid out for me. I am in a position where for I wanted to I could just down my I pad leave all this and go and sell a product for a friend and maybe even make a few quid. But that’s not what I went through cancer for, I went through it to, help others in their lives, maybe not help but encourage people to make a differance in the life that they have.

  
That’s why walking by faith the route will be revealed to me. I have come to a choice to either follow my heart or do what I have always done. Make a few quid, but that does not make a differance, what makes a differance is following by faith the path laid out before us. It may even have some rewards along the way. Who knows.

Enjoy your walk

Fonz

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