Encouraging bloggers.

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This weeks bloggers I love.
http://Wordpress.hugsnblessings.com 
Dawn Marie is a Godly lady and is someone who always has something positive to say. She is not a person you will find drawn into negative conflicts about anyone, she sees everyone as souls. As a consequence she has nothing but kindness to give to all people. I totally respect her and am happy to call her my friend. 
http://heidihjort.com 
recommended 
http://alphawhiskeyfoxtrot.com/
Saying its one of the kindest blogs she had ever seen. So of course I had to add it.
I will always add blogs people recommend because if you like what they do then so will others.
http://dreambigdreamofter.wordpress.com
Danny shares people’s links everyday, he is a caring man himself and while he suffers himself daily, he has always got Time for others. People like this are rare in life and although I have our Danny forwards before he has shown support that I have seen this week to..

These people I want to recommend as this weeks bloggers that encourage others that are not out for themselves. The world needs more people like this, please contact me if you think there is someone that should go in next week. 
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Everything you read are based on my own experience and my own opinions. I express them here to encourage you. Please share with others, if it meant something to you it will to someone else. All images are from a Google search. Or my own.

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How dare you!

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What do you want with me,
I was happy and free,
You come along to take me,
I refuse you can’t make me.

My life is my own, from seeds sown,
Your not my master, your just cancer,
Your idea maybe to take me,
But I can tell you, your not my answer.

There is no way I will allow a thief,
To come in the night and steal my life. 
For it is with one person I find relief,
That is not you, she is my wife!

I hope one day, you die forever,
That scientists find our answer,
Until that day we fight together,
To free this world from cancer!

Written by http://www.fonzandcancer.com

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It’s a group where people’s experiences are used to encourage others. 
Everything you read are based on my own experience and my own opinions. I express them here to encourage you. Please share with others, if it meant something to you it will to someone else. All images are from a Google search. Or my own.

No, just No.

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This blog is a lie, who has the right to say to you no. To even suggest No in your life,  I got thinking about my wife who I love so dearly. It got me thinking of the times we had made something happen in life, like when Andies mum died from cancer Norma. It’s a story of our lives together, you see I am the sort of person who likes to say No (if) you believe the title of this blog. Norma was an amazing lady, I admired her greatly, a story comes to mind putting me off track to what I was going to say. So be it. I remember Andie turning to me one day after getting  off the phone to her mum. “Whats up” I said she began to tell me how her mum had hired a floor board sander. You know the type 5 ft tall with a massive conveyor sand paper bottom. Norma, a slight lady. Had pulled the start lever an shot her from one side of the room to the other. Now as there were no other offers of help, it fell to me. Well to be honest it felt like an honour to go and sand the floor for her. I would do it the next day, now although I had the floor sanded quite quickly, I did happen to manage to spill the whole tin of floor stain over the floor. No one around I quickly painted the whole floor in about 30 mins spreading the paint around so no one would notice. 

  
It’s amazing because no one ever did notice, and only me and Andie ever knew what I had done. Until now that is. She was lovely Norma, it was a great loss to lose her so young. I am reminded of Norma regularly, because my wife Amdie is so similar to her so often. She was gorgeous as is my wife. Inside and out.

   
So back to the story, when Andies mum left us. A dream died with her to own and drive a mk 11 jaaaaag. You know the inspector morse one that everyone laughed at at first but then became a sought after expensive classic. Well I could not stretch to that back then. But I did have a plan, that was to part ex her Renault Clio in for a jaguar xj8, so that Andie went to work in not the same as, but a dream I could afford. In Honour for Norma and Malcolm my Andies parents. She drove that car for a number of years making a dream come true, which brings me to the sentence I want to end with. 

  
If someone says no to you, make sure that you make the dream happen that has been refused by the person, that can’t dream big enough. After all the limit of your dream is in your head. It’s only you that stops a dream coming true, just make it happen. It’s not what you do when they are gone that matters, it’s what you do in their life.

Enjoy your day

Fonz
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Confidence.

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How many of us don’t do something, simply because we are unsure of the outcome. How will we know what the outcome will be if we don’t give it a shot.  It’s something people think I have in spades “confidence” Which is quite true, confidence is half the battle, if your confident then all the worrying small stuff is not considered in your forward thinking. Only those that are worriers will take into consideration all the bits that cause issues. Let me explain.

  
When I was about to have a transplant I went to see the doctor, who would tell me of the risks that my treatment would Entail, included in the list were heart failure, lung failure, kidney damage, irreversible nerve damage, pancreatic failure and many others. As I walked out of that room I put all the words and warnings he had said to the back of my mind. I had signed a consent form agreeing that I would have the treatment and if any of the side effects happened I would not sue. That’s what the point was, that I would blame no one if something went wrong. 

  
What do you do, wallow in self pity. Ask why me? Get depressed and overwhelmed with what you are to face. Or, get on with it. I chose, oh and it was a physical choice. To carry on regardless, helping myself to focus on what I could do, as opposed to what I could not change. The potential possibilities would always be there no matter what. So what’s the point in worrying, yea just gotta stand up and move forwards, doing the things that are in your control, giving yourself the best chance at surviving that’s possible. Like giving up smoking, thinking positively, never allowing people’s words to bring you down. Keeping away from germs that little ones maybe carrying. But no matter what keeping focused on a long term goal, moving closer towards it. 

  
The goal I set for myself was a holiday, a friends brother in law speaks about always having a holiday to look forward to, he always books the next one as soon as he gets back off holiday which makes each day that bit nicer. We were not able to book our holiday as we had no idea what side effects I may have after treatment. But what I did have was confidence that I would make it. Saying the words that you know I say, I WILL and I CAN. you can be what ever you want to be, you just need to have that confidence to remove all barriers that are in your way. To believe whole heartedly that I would win and stand on that beach with my friends, then in turn swim with dolphins with my wife which has been a life long ambition. Even turning down an opportunity to do this in Kiakora New Zealand simply because I was doing it solo. Doing that with my wife will be amazing.

  It’s now our time, a time for us to shake off the cobwebs and live our life. 10/09/2015 means I am 47 and oh how proud I feel to have made that happen. To have triumphed over that horrible thing we call cancer. There is a song that’s very dear to me, it’s a song that we have wanted to fulfil the words to. To feel real love in the home that we live it, now after our triumph we do. How amazing is that.

Have a great week,

Mark

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Everything you read are based on my own experience and my own opinions. I express them here to encourage you. Please share with others, if it meant something to you it will to someone else.