There is beauty in everything.

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Goodness, inspire

You have proberbly heard me say it before, that there really is beauty in everything. Whilst learning on my cancer journey, my whole mind set has changed. As a younger man teens and certainly in my twenties, I saw problems in problems. I saw what problems took from me as opposed to the wisdom that problems can give to us. 

You see for me, there are problems everywhere if we want to look at life like that. Let me attempt to exsplain. So somebody tells me I have an illness and it will take my life, without treatment. I have heard those words, I know it’s more serious for some people. But I am of the belief it’s not what we are told it’s our whole attitude to it that matters. A good attitude is found in relaxed people. It’s generally not found in the person that runs around like a headless chicken looking for problems. I for sure have my own demons I have to face, like anyone else I am not perfect far from it. 

The point is this it’s winter right now and there are no flowers in our garden, but I went out there and took some photos anyway just with this I pad I write this on now. I wonder what you think yo what I have taken.  

   
Funny isn’t it I didn’t notice before but I am not sure that lights much good full of water like that lol. That garden was a blank piece of grass. I will show you how it looked at the end of this blog, I could have done nothing with it just left it as it was and the dog would have still been happy with it as she is today. Why because our dog faith does not care what it looks like as long as she is with me or Andie. I see beauty in everything these days, that’s what cancer gave to me. Cancer made me change my attitude to everything I see. I no longer see a problem in a problem, I see solutions where I did not before. 

  

This is a border me and my friend Karl made.

  
If you have read all of my blogs you will have read how I was determined to get a piece of land the other day. Well this is how it looked 

  
A couple of days after that picture it looked like this.

  
It’s amazing walking in that small piece of land that I call a garden. But yet it could just be a brown piece of land, our lives even with cancer can have good come out of it, but you have to choose for something good to come of it. 

It’s strange you know, I can get emotional just because I can see all these things growing. Cancer has made me appreciate so much, people, plants, life, breath. Just life, some people are fortunate to know when thier life will end and dig in and gain more days purely by shear determination. For sure I am alive because I want to be, and everything I see fills me with a grateful heart. I ask you this question, and please comment. It’s nice for people to know your thoughts. What has life taught you?

Have a great day

Fonz

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Everything you read are based on my own experience and my own opinions. I express them here to encourage you. Please share with others, if it meant something to you it will to someone else. All images are from a Google search. Or my own.

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We choose what we become.

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acceptance, cancer, Cancer stories, fonz, greatness, happiness, help, helpful, hope, inspire, journey, life, love, m, stories, together

It’s true isn’t it? Life is just a bunch of choices, some say that some choices are bad. I say some choices we learn from. It very much depends on our reaction to the choice that we make. As I have said before, it’s not about focusing on a seemingly negative decision or situation. It’s how we respond that really matters. We met a lovely man today, he was with his two daughters and another male friend. Of course my first reaction was that they had given their wives a break by having the girls with them for breakfast. My how wrong I was, as we talked I realised that not only were they together, but they had adopted those two dear children. They had done a beautiful thing, they had given 2 children a happy home. It was very clear to see how loved they were, paving the way maybe for others to do the same.

  
We ourselves have it in our hearts to do the same, to adopt a child that needs a home. It was almost like I was being spoken to through this situation, being shown what life would be like to have adopted children in our lives. It was an amazing thing to see,  to see that those children had a loving home, were cared for and loved greatly.  we are here to encourage, love and inspire, whilst leading by example. I just accepted them. 

 
 When we left breakfast, one of the children who I had been talking to in Donald Duck. Asked her dad this question. “Daddy can I write my name, for Marco Polo”? They were French speaking. Of course she did photo attached, her sister gave me a sticker which is on my I pad and they blew us a kiss as we left. What a privalage to be given those minutes with that family. How heart warming that I now have that memory. Yet all of that would never have happened if I took a different approach. 

  
What matters is that happiness exsists in their lives, they will make their own choices right or wrong when they are older. Acceptance is amazing, and should be cherished. A loving home is priceless, which brings me to my next blog. But for today I will leave you with a song, that me and an old friend used to play, that I hoped one day my life would be like. Just listen to the words. Because I now have in my life the words to the song.

Have a great day.

Mark

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Writing 365 blogs. (How I get inspiration)

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belief, desire, faith, finish, fiwgh, hope, inspiration, inspire, love, well, will, willing, wonderful, Writing

Morning, it’s tough this challenge sometimes getting inspiration for 365 completely different blogs and keeping them interesting. I know many folk have been really interested in my cancer journey. Because let’s have it right. Cancer has touched most of us in some way or another. It’s something nasty, something horrible to face, it’s a negative process. So why my cancer story, why choose that to write about. Well here is the truth, I realised that I was facing death for the second time at 46. Now being a positive person, someone whose glass is half full, I will not accept negativity in my life. I won’t listen, I walk away from people that like to moan and groan.

  
Mainly, because I realise how short life is. Me and Andie love doing anything together these days as we realise how important this life is. How many opportunities there are in this world. People see problems, but I see solutions. Solutions are amazing, they change your life. Problems make us sluggish and weighed down, where as a solution brings freedom. They bring happiness and laughter, they make things better and more effective. 

  
During my 145 posts I have drawn on what life was throwing at me. I had no choice to NOT have cancer, but I had a choice to beat cancer. Many of you have watched how I have fought, watched how I have dealt with the many situations that I have found myself in. Both me and Andie have grown in the process, not just together but as individuals. We have started to value things more, like faith, and our home. Our true friends have become our family, believing that we no longer have friends. They are the family we choose, the people we trust, we try to find the best in people and skip over mistakes others may have made. We effectively choose to be positive about others. We (try) to see the best in our family friends, and help where we can. 

  
My inspiration comes from turning negatives into positives, aiming to use what ever experience I/we have to encourage and maybe even inspire someone. My aim is that every blog I write inspires one person a day, which is why I keep writing, because people are being affected in a positive way. I know because people tell me directly. I just love doing what I am doing right now, and actually don’t think before writing that I have enjoyed something so much in the whole of my life before. 

  
I look for positive statements in my daily life, and if I don’t find any (which is rare) then I tell you something I think you may like to hear about like my travelling across Australia. When I wake up each morning and see my radiant wife’s face, I am filled with joy that we have another day cancer free. Yep cancer free, it’s amazing this life we have. Today we will be at the airport looking around Concorde doing something different. So no prizes for guessing what tomorrow’s blog will be about. 

  
So now you know how I get my inspiration, I wonder how many other bloggers will have been inspired in turn by reading this. I hope many, because all I want to do for the rest of my days is encourage others to do, or have hope in what ever it is that you want to do with your life. I hope you have a great Sunday. 

All the best

Mark

http://www.fonzandcancer.com
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Everything you read are based on my own experience and my own opinions. I express them here to encourage you. Please share with others, if it meant something to you it will to someone else.