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If it’s meant to be, it WILL be.

07 Thursday Jan 2016

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This is a must read, a true story that has touched my heart!
As I walked home one freezing day, I stumbled on a wallet someone had lost in the street. I picked it up and looked inside to find some identification so I could call the owner. But the wallet contained only three dollars and a crumpled letter that looked as if it had been in there for years.
The envelope was worn and the only thing that was legible on it was the return address. I started to open the letter, hoping to find some clue. Then I saw the dateline–1924. The letter had been written almost 60 years ago.
It was written in a beautiful feminine handwriting on powder blue stationery with a little flower in the left-hand corner. It was a “Dear John” letter that told the recipient, whose name appeared to be Michael, that the writer could not see him anymore because her mother forbade it. Even so, she wrote that she would always love him.
It was signed, Hannah.
It was a beautiful letter, but there was no way except for the name Michael, that the owner could be identified. Maybe if I called information, the operator could find a phone listing for the address on the envelope.
“Operator,” I began, “this is an unusual request. I’m trying to find the owner of a wallet that I found. Is there anyway you can tell me if there is a phone number for an address that was on an envelope in the wallet?”
She suggested I speak with her supervisor, who hesitated for a moment then said, “Well, there is a phone listing at that address, but I can’t give you the number.” She said, as a courtesy, she would call that number, explain my story and would ask them if they wanted her to connect me.
I waited a few minutes and then she was back on the line. “I have a party who will speak with you.”
I asked the woman on the other end of the line if she knew anyone by the name of Hannah. She gasped, “Oh! We bought this house from a family who had a daughter named Hannah. But that was 30 years ago!”
“Would you know where that family could be located now?” I asked.
“I remember that Hannah had to place her mother in a nursing home some years ago,” the woman said. “Maybe if you got in touch with them they might be able to track down the daughter.”
She gave me the name of the nursing home and I called the number. They told me the old lady had passed away some years ago but they did have a phone number for where they thought the daughter might be living.
I thanked them and phoned. The woman who answered explained that Hannah herself was now living in a nursing home.
This whole thing was stupid, I thought to myself. Why was I making such a big deal over finding the owner of a wallet that had only three dollars and a letter that was almost 60 years old?
Nevertheless, I called the nursing home in which Hannah was supposed to be living and the man who answered the phone told me, “Yes, Hannah is staying with us.”
Even though it was already 10 p.m., I asked if I could come by to see her. “Well,” he said hesitatingly, “if you want to take a chance, she might be in the day room watching television.”
I thanked him and drove over to the nursing home. The night nurse and a guard greeted me at the door. We went up to the third floor of the large building. In the day room, the nurse introduced me to Hannah.
She was a sweet, silver-haired oldtimer with a warm smile and a twinkle in her eye. I told her about finding the wallet and showed her the letter. The second she saw the powder blue envelope with that little flower on the left, she took a deep breath and said, “Young man, this letter was the last contact I ever had with Michael.”
She looked away for a moment deep in thought and then said softly, “I loved him very much. But I was only 16 at the time and my mother felt I was too young. Oh, he was so handsome. He looked like Sean Connery, the actor.”
“Yes,” she continued. “Michael Goldstein was a wonderful person. If you should find him, tell him I think of him often. And,” she hesitated for a moment, almost biting her lip, “tell him I still love him. You know,” she said smiling as tears began to well up in her eyes, “I never did marry. I guess no one ever matched up to Michael…”
I thanked Hannah and said goodbye. I took the elevator to the first floor and as I stood by the door, the guard there asked, “Was the old lady able to help you?”
I told him she had given me a lead. “At least I have a last name. But I think I’ll let it go for a while. I spent almost the whole day trying to find the owner of this wallet.”
I had taken out the wallet, which was a simple brown leather case with red lacing on the side. When the guard saw it, he said, “Hey, wait a minute! That’s Mr. Goldstein’s wallet. I’d know it anywhere with that bright red lacing. He’s always losing that wallet. I must have found it in the halls at least three times.”
“Who’s Mr. Goldstein?” I asked as my hand began to shake.
“He’s one of the oldtimers on the 8th floor. That’s Mike Goldstein’s wallet for sure. He must have lost it on one of his walks.” I thanked the guard and quickly ran back to the nurse’s office. I told her what the guard had said. We went back to the elevator and got on. I prayed that Mr. Goldstein would be up.
On the eighth floor, the floor nurse said, “I think he’s still in the day room. He likes to read at night. He’s a darling old man.”
We went to the only room that had any lights on and there was a man reading a book. The nurse went over to him and asked if he had lost his wallet. Mr. Goldstein looked up with surprise, put his hand in his back pocket and said, “Oh, it is missing!”
“This kind gentleman found a wallet and we wondered if it could be yours?”
I handed Mr. Goldstein the wallet and the second he saw it, he smiled with relief and said, “Yes, that’s it! It must have dropped out of my pocket this afternoon. I want to give you a reward.”
“No, thank you,” I said. “But I have to tell you something. I read the letter in the hope of finding out who owned the wallet.”
The smile on his face suddenly disappeared. “You read that letter?”
“Not only did I read it, I think I know where Hannah is.”
He suddenly grew pale. “Hannah? You know where she is? How is she? Is she still as pretty as she was? Please, please tell me,” he begged.
“She’s fine…just as pretty as when you knew her.” I said softly.
The old man smiled with anticipation and asked, “Could you tell me where she is? I want to call her tomorrow.” He grabbed my hand and said, “You know something, Mister? I was so in love with that girl that when that letter came, my life literally ended. I never married. I guess I’ve always loved her.”
“Mr. Goldstein,” I said, “Come with me.”
We took the elevator down to the third floor. The hallways were darkened and only one or two little night-lights lit our way to the day room where Hannah was sitting alone watching the television. The nurse walked over to her.
“Hannah,” she said softly, pointing to Michael, who was waiting with me in the doorway. “Do you know this man?”
She adjusted her glasses, looked for a moment, but didn’t say a word. Michael said softly, almost in a whisper, “Hannah, it’s Michael. Do you remember me?”
She gasped, “Michael! I don’t believe it! Michael! It’s you! My Michael!” He walked slowly towards her and they embraced. The nurse and I left with tears streaming down our faces.
“See,” I said. “See how the Good Lord works! If it’s meant to be, it will be.”
About three weeks later I got a call at my office from the nursing home. “Can you break away on Sunday to attend a wedding? Michael and Hannah are going to tie the knot!”
It was a beautiful wedding with all the people at the nursing home dressed up to join in the celebration. Hannah wore a light beige dress and looked beautiful. Michael wore a dark blue suit and stood tall. They made me their best man.
The hospital gave them their own room and if you ever wanted to see a 76-year-old bride and a 79-year-old groom acting like two teenagers, you had to see this couple.
A perfect ending for a love affair that had lasted nearly 60 years.

  

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What’s the worst part of cancer?

17 Thursday Dec 2015

Posted by fonzandcancer in Cancer, Cancer stories, Christmas, Holiday, Hope, Love, Paris, Relationships, Uncategorized, Winner

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The not knowing, is without doubt the hardest. Being in a situation where you are not able to know what your future holds is hard in itself. It’s a place where you can’t do anything about your future, all you can do is wait for your diagnosis. You don’t know how hard you need to hit, you are not able to prepare yourself for the road ahead.myour in limbo until your told what you have. I remember the day I was diagnosed like it was 5 minutes ago. But my brain struggles to recall the days leading up to it, the tests after tests after tests. You find yourself at the lowest point in your life, tears roll down your face for no apparent reason. It’s like you know that the you that is now, is gone forever. It’s almost as though you are starting to grieve who you were, but yet you can’t grieve because you don’t know what you are grieving yet.All you do know is that you may have cancer, the more tests that are done the more the likley hood is that you do have cancer. But how do you fight it, is it terminal? How long do I have to live? What stage am I at? How will my family cope? All of these thoughts and many many more flood through your mind ALL the time. I remember looking up at the sky one night, thinking how selfish the people on the plane were that I could see, did they not know what I may be facing. It’s a strange place to be not knowing. It is without doubt the hardest point in my life until then. The words that would come out of the consultants mouth were to change my life forever. 

  
They kept predicting the stage that my possible cancer was at. 2 a was possible at first but within the space of 2 months the probability had gone up to 4a. I mean I can’t tell you how that makes you feel, the emotional roller coaster leading up to the diagnosis day. So many things were said that day, but the only word I really heard was “cancer” then that I would die quickly without treatment. It’s the time were you need your friends more than you ever did, just to take your mind off things and bring you back to some kind of old reality again. When you grieve the death of a family member, it’s not nice how you feel inside. Yet that’s exactly what I felt whilst waiting for diagnosis, grieving the me that had gone, knowing the you that you know would never be again. That there would be a new you that you did not know! 
I am now 5 1/2 years on from diagnosis, I still morn the old me. At the same time I am starting to love the new me, while at the same time learning to live my life in new boundaries. I guess I was fortunate that my cancer was treatable, but I would have loved to have just gone under the knife once to remove it it’s never that simple though is it. All this time having treatment yet I have a feeling of elation, of defiance that I have beaten this evil desease. No matter how horrendous chemo makes you feel, how scary the procedures are.mi still say the worst is the not knowing. 
Here’s lifting a glass to Life!
Enjoy what you have, life is THE most precious gift you have.
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The worst thing to say to a cancer patient.

16 Wednesday Dec 2015

Posted by fonzandcancer in Cancer, Cancer stories, Christmas, Holiday, Hope, Love, Paris, Relationships, Uncategorized, Winner

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Could today be it? Are you really bothered? You get in your flash car, go to work fulfil the demands put on you by your work place. Earn enough, for what? To be stuck in traffic come home eat then fall asleep without family time. If that’s you, you have had no wake up call. No shock to make you think differently. That’s great, I so hope you never do. But if your still reading this then you do actually care. One thing is for sure that we will die one day, but what will we be remembered by? Our house, what we owned, our car. Or what we did for others, you see for me I want to be remembered for what I did rather than what I had. I hope to be remembered for being involved in other people’s lives, not the person that said I would and never did. I was watching 24 hours in A&E last night, it got me thinking that people only stop and think when they have a trauma in their lives. They only  truly reflect when our paths are forced to change.
I really related to that, because the same happened to me. When I got cancer I could clearly see where my last days would be, it was a wake up call a realisation that I am not as invincible as I thought I was. That there is actually an end. Andies mum ( I loved her so much) used to say this. It’s not what you do when someone’s gone it’s what you do in their lives. It’s true isn’t it, we have the chance now and we think that money and a living is enough. What’s the point in all that if there are no moments of reflection. No moments of peace, of sharing thoughts with others and love. Weekend should not be recovery time to go to be fit for another weeks work. Weekend should be time for family and friends to do in their lives now, before its to late. 

  
Like this blog, it’s written forever. People can read this in generations to come, maybe people will want to read my thoughts more when I am gone, I guess that’s just human nature. What this blog is about is to do my best to help you to see, that it’s not to late. It never is whilst we have breath, while we are able. The worst thing to say to a cancer patient is. I am here if you need anything, just ask. Because when your that ill you can’t ask, you don’t even feel like typing.even breathing is an affront never mind walking, talking and phoning someone. What ever you do will be appreciated   Trust me. But don’t say those words. “You know where I am” because although the person does know that, they won’t ask.

  
 Just do, and make their day by turning up with some food, even if they don’t feel like it. I remember when I was at my lowest Eb my friend Johnny came up to the house and dived on me, giving me a huge hug. I didn’t want him there, even hated that he came. But as soon as I had that hug and saw his wife. My mind changed, we had a great night that night and will never forget it. Johnny did for me where others said those words, don’t get me wrong many people did. That is just one example.

Have a great week

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Giving is healing

14 Monday Dec 2015

Posted by fonzandcancer in Cancer, Cancer stories, Christmas, Holiday, Hope, Love, Paris, Relationships, Uncategorized, Winner

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What is the ethos of Cancer stories, why does it exsist. Is it helpful to share our exsperiences with others, or does it scare people to know what’s ahead. Well I believe that sharing is healing, that we as humans can keep what we have learnt or exsperienced locked away or we can tell people how it was for us. I am finding many people are, and have to date been and have been blessed by people sharing. Some have even gotten belief in themselves that they can do it, that they can get up and beat this terrible deasease that has taken so many people’s lives. To believe because we did, that they can do the same, to Kick cancers Butt.
There are many stories that come out of Cancer stories, I am very aware that soon I will have to sum up the last year. something I don’t want to do. Sharing our stories has gotten people out of bed, it’s helped with self belief, still helped with confidence. Helped people to be lifted up simply by sharing sometimes how hard something is. You see, when someone knows it’s gonna be tough and has seen someone come through, believe it or not it gives hope that they can. Hope that by determination and the power of our will makes us believe we CAN. More over that your not alone, that there are people that understand what you have to face, we are an army there always any time of the day or night here for you. 
Our lives have been touched by cancer some how, which makes us motivational. It makes us experienced, it makes us empathic instead of sympathetic. Anyone can have sympathy but not many people on earth can empathise with another. It’s because you have had cancer that you now have the gift of exsperience that can touch others. Only when someone has been through the exsperience can you empathise with another. Maybe that’s why I had it, maybe that’s why cancer touched me to wake me up, to help me realise that effort brings healing and by sharing our stories, we can bring healing to others because of our experiences. 

  
We are all linked throughout the world as humans. But empathy is one of the most powerful tools at our disposal. It’s very powerful what we have felt and exsperienced, where I hope no one ever has to suffer cancer and the horrific treatment that goes with it. Those that have, have a special gift that they don’t even realise they have. Simply because you have been touched by cancer, what you have been through can help another. The only person in the way of that is you.
We can all hold our head in our hands and ask why me, but by holding our head up and sharing our story people’s lives are affected and even healed, because of you.
But will you?
Fonz

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What would I say to a 15 yr old me?

14 Monday Dec 2015

Posted by fonzandcancer in Cancer, Cancer stories, Christmas, Holiday, Hope, Love, Paris, Relationships, Uncategorized, Winner

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Driving back from a dog walk today, thats what my wife asked me. What would you say to a 15yr old you if you had the chance to talk to him. What an interesting question. I was quick to respond though, although not something I had ever thought about before. 

  
It seemed obvious to me, but then when you look back isn’t it easier to know the answers to a life you have lived rather than when you were actually living it. I mean the 15 yr old me was selling dog chews on the back of a go-kart, working 3 Saturday jobs in the summer I worked 4 paper rounds. I started to be interested in girls though, that was proberbly my downfall. That’s where I wasted all my money, trying to make girls happy, should I not have just been friends with them instead of chasing. Well it’s funny because I did not mention any of that in my answer to my wife. My answer was simple, because with a couple of simple rules in place the rest would have followed.

“concentrate on being the best you can be at one thing, and don’t exspect to get rich quick. Just do your best everyday, and learn from your mistakes don’t regret them”
That was what I said, I stand by it because is not the love of money the route of all Evil. Is not knowledge power, if you know more than your neighbour on a subject how can they dispute your decisions. By being the best you possible you become a person people gravitate towards because along with that comes confidence, self assurance. With all that comes the need for others to purchase your knowledge.

Well that’s my answer, what would your answer be, don’t think it in your head. Comment and tell us all so we can learn from what you have learnt also. We are all on different journeys aren’t we, I watched a video today of a lady aged 101 enjoying the snow even making a snow ball and throwing it. Simple things in life can mean so much, it’s down to us to make sure people in our lives get to enjoy some of those simple things isn t it. I am so glad I have faith in my life, it gives us a complete new dimension to everything.

Have a great week.

Fonz

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The good Muslim.

13 Sunday Dec 2015

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One day, a Christian of America

made up in his mind to test Jesus, saying, “Teacher, remind me on how I am to inherit eternal life.” Jesus said to him, “What is written in the New Testament? How do you read it?” And he answered, “I must have faith in him whom God has risen from the dead. It is a living faith which leads me to love God and my neighbor.” And Jesus said to him, “You have answered correctly; do this, and you will live.”
But the Christian of America, didn’t fully appreciate the answer. He straightened his back. Cast a smirk of a smile and said to Jesus, “And who is my neighbor?” 
Jesus replied, “A man was going from Washington D.C. to Philadelphia, and he was car-jacked by several persons, who stole his clothes, seized his smartphone, broke his ribs, cracked his skull, leaving him unconscious on the side of the road. Now it happened to be the time of a great conference and a pro-life group was passing by, and when they saw the man, they passed on by. Likewise a missionary group who just returned from India, when they came to the exact same location, they too passed on to the other side. 
But a Muslim, as he traveled to work, saw the man on the side of the road, and when he saw him, he entered into his suffering. He pulled out his first aid kit, tended to the man’s injuries and then called 911 for emergency assistance. He followed the ambulance to the hospital and sat over night with the man in ICU. Next morning he told the hospital billing office, “Here is my credit card. Take care of him and whatever he needs.”
Jesus looked at the Christian of America and with strong eyes asked, “Which of these three, do you think, proved to be a neighbor to the man carjacked?”
The Christian of America clenched his fist. He looked around fumbling with the keys in his pocket. He finally looked up to Jesus and said, “The one who showed him mercy.” 
And Jesus says to the Christian of America, 
“You go, and do the same.”
This retelling of the Parable of the Good Samaritan (Luke 10:25-37) was inspired by my friend Jared Wilson who tweeted on Monday December 7, 2015:
“If Jesus were telling the parable we call The Good Samaritan to many evangelicals today, it might be known as The Good Muslim.”
This year has proven we need to revisit this parable and others like it to recover how we are to live as Christians in this current climate. We are seeking to justify ourselves and how we treat others on the basis of our citizenship, ethnicity, sexual orientation, or political affiliation. Such justifications lead us only to love those who are like us. This parable demonstrates the power of transformative love when those who are in conflict share in each other’s suffering. This parable is spoken to those who ask the question, “What must I do to inherit life?” 
Jesus is speaking to us today. 
Jesus is telling us a old story in a new way.
Jesus who has showed us mercy now says, 
“You go, and do the same. It will cost you time. It will cost you resources. It will cost your life. But because I have give you the power of an indestructible life. You go, and do the same. Show mercy as an act of gratitude for the mercy you have received.”

Written by http://www.phillipfletcher.org

We need to remember the story of the Good Samaritan. We need to remember that we are all brothers and sisters. Let’s stop labelling each other,and start loving each other, we may not understand what people wear or why some have certain traditions. But isn’t it about loving your Nieghbour no matter what race or religion they are. We are all learning.

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My name is Araminta. (Some childhood memories)

12 Saturday Dec 2015

Posted by fonzandcancer in Cancer, Cancer stories, Christmas, Holiday, Hope, Love, Paris, Relationships, Uncategorized, Winner

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When I was young we used to rent stories from the library in charlton. You know bbc storey tellers, you used to get them on tape and rent them for a small fee. I think the narrator was called Johnny Morris. Whilst researching The narrator and BBC presenter of the programme “animal magic” I got thinking of all the other things my real young childhood stood for. Programmes like swop shop.

A programme where you could speak to a pop star such as Adam Ant. I remember this person most as in my cancer journey a friend of mine said I looked like him in a particular picture I took.

  
Prince Charming he said I was doing a rendition of!

It was a time where the record breaker hosted by Roy castle broke records live on TV. Here is one I remember that amazed me.

Pt 2

Pt 3

I think it’s good to remember what we had growing up, I guess the very best present me and Jeremy ever had was the ZX Spectrum 128 k one of the first computers to grace our homes. Here I am typing this buy touching a screen. Watching a 47″ flat screen TV. My how life has changed, how technology has changed how we do things now. I mean my mum and dad get over 300 Christmas cards. I get over 200 messages from people wishing us merry Christmas. I can’t even begin to imagine what the next 35 years will produce.

When I was growing up we communicated with people by phone one at a time. Now tens of thousands can have the same information at the same time.

I grew up listening to Johnny Morris on a tape recorder, watching a black and white television. Noel Edmonds and then Tizwas, which tended to push the boundaries of what we were allowed to watch. We watched the Sullivan’s at lunch time, John Nokes was on Blue peter. News round was our news and we talked to other people in our family by something called speech. We sat at a table for tea, played out on bikes instead of looking at a screen most of the day to communicate.

Looking back I loved Araminta, and those Johnny Morris stories, Thomas the tank engine narrations. My memory is horrendous but the last 3-4 hours of research has brought back so many happy memories for me.

Thanks Dad and Mum, you did a great job.

I hope you have had some happy memories given back to you because you read this, have a great day.

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What is true love.

12 Saturday Dec 2015

Posted by fonzandcancer in Cancer, Cancer stories, Christmas, Holiday, Hope, Love, Paris, Relationships, Uncategorized, Winner

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You have heard people say it have  you not ?. “you will know your in love when you feel it.” There are many things that need to be in place for people to know what true love is. I myself believe the first thing someone needs to love someone else, is to like the person you are, to love yourself even. To think of yourself as a good person, to trust yourself that your are the best you that you can be today.

  
Love for me means putting the person you love before your needs, everyone deserves to be loved. I hear people saying “your so lucky to have each other” I say we are good people and deserve each other. Take the cancer journey we have just been on, if I did not love those around me would I really have done my treatment. Would it not have been easier to just say, “I have what I have” then not fought. Is that not a selfish way to look at it. Do you not not only show respect to yourself, and the people you love around you. Cancer has with out doubt brought me and Andie closer together not torn us apart, because we knew that what we did we did for each other. I am closer to my family members that were relentless in being there for us.

  
It’s a great honour to be prayed for by people but it’s what we do for a person that makes us feel the love from someone. Family supported us in my cancer journey. Showing us we are loved and cared for greatly, I just look on CS at the messages left by people for people that are loved by so many. 

True love is shown in what we do, not what people say that they do. It’s not just a feeling, it’s an act of sacrifice and giving from the heart. Isn’t that what Christmas is about, showing love to those that we care about. Real love is not just a feeling it’s an action, it’s  an action that shows you are cared about. It’s a choice in what we do or don’t do. One person we will never forget and showed Andie love in our journey was Rachel in allowing her to be with me in treatment. That kind of love has meant so much to us as a family. 

What will you do for someone to show them you love them this year? To help them feel the love you have for them. True love is about putting the other person first, if you both do that it will always work.

Have a great weekend

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It’s not what you do, as long as you do.

11 Friday Dec 2015

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Right now as I Wright, everything I have just written has been deleted. My I pad has updated and I have lost allot of what I have written before, and what I have written today. All my drafts have gone, and can’t tell you how annoyed I am. But I will attempt to remember what I have written earlier, I just have one word that helps me remember what I wrote “willing”

I wrote about being willing to do as opposed to dwelling on what you had not done. In other words. Don’t concentrate on the things you could/should have done. Concentrate on what you have done. You can’t change what you could have done, but you can change what you can do today. It’s about being willing to do, as apposed to wanting to give someone a sizeable gift. 

  
It’s not always how big the gift is, it’s sometimes the small things that matter the most.

Going back to the wallet storey yesterday. I remember a friend of mine (Peter) a tramp people called him. His dad was a minister like mine. We understood each other and he valued the time we spent together in the early hours chatting. Well I did, he’s not alive to ask now. But Peter found a wallet with £600 in it and walked the 16 mile round trip to deliver it, with every penny intact. Some people would think that was a big thing to do, not peter. That was a normal thing to do, he did not even accept money for the bus fare home. (He walked) every penny was intact. That to him was a small thing to do, it made him famous in the area, and many many more people gave him hot drinks because of it like I did.

Remember this, it’s not what you didn’t do yesterday, it’s what you choose to do today in this today. Because tomorrow’s today will be the same chance you had today. 

Enjoy doing for someone today, if your willing of course.

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R2  D2

09 Wednesday Dec 2015

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Story time again, so this is how my wife puts it on the phone to one of her colleagues. Both the washing machine and the dishwasher have forgotten what they are supposed to do, her colleague asks with intrigue. What she means by that. Well she said, the pots come out the dish washer dirtier than they went in, and the washing machine thinks it’s R2 bleedin D2, because when it spins it shuffles across the floor thinking its in an episode of starwars. I love being married, it’s so much fun our house is full of fun and laughter. Isn’t it great to have a fun outlook as opposed to dwelling on the fact that 2 of the most expensive appliances in the house have stopped working.

Isn’t it better to look on the bright side of life as appossed to dwelling on the negatives. Like it happening 3 weeks before Christmas aswell. 

  
I guess we are excited to be having Christmas without cancer in our lives, and it does not matter what happens now! We are determined to enjoy Christmas this year, the love we have between each other is shining through far more this year I think than any other year. Knowing our friends will be with us for Christmas Day aswell. It makes no difference what so ever, what life throws at us this year. We are GOING to have a fantastic festive season celebrating the fact that Jesus was born. Celebrating that I was born that Andie was born, celebrating LIFE. Celebrating, love, friendship, friends, happiness, faith and family. 

  
Loving and embracing this life we have , being thankful for today and believing we will have a tomorrow. At the moment the TV is off and we are listening to the new cold play album Amazing day is playing, and no matter what you face it is amazing that you live. We are amazing people, and I choose no matter what to enjoy every minute of Christmas 2015. I hope you will join me as we celebrate this year, I hope you will choose to celebrate the life you have been given with us this year. I hope you will laugh with us, and enjoy filling the house you live in with love and laughter. Instead of being upset your washing machine thinks it’s taken on the personality of a Star Wars character, and forgotten it’s job!

Have a great day.

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