How I gave up smoking.

17 Friday Jun 2016

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belief, chemotheropy, family, hope, joe, killing, love, mcmillan, nicotine, strength, winning.

I don’t know about the rest of the world, but for me when I got hodgkins Lymphoma. I was told that there was no evidence to people getting my cancer through life style. Ie drinking or smoking, or eating. So for me I was not being told to give up cigerettes and it’s not going to give me a better chance of not getting it again by not smoking. So I didn’t, I smoked throughout my whole cancer exsperience. Even when I was in treatment I still smoked at home. .

Depression.

18 Monday Jan 2016

Posted by fonzandcancer in Cancer, Cancer stories, Chemothearopy, Christmas, depression, Holiday, Hope, Love, Paris, Relationships, Uncategorized, Winner

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depression, failure, faith, honour, trump, trust, winning.

My blog is a year in the life of me, someone fighting cancer. The struggles that someone normal is faced with whilst fighting to stay alive and beat cancer. When I started ( or chose ) to write this blog called fonzandcancer I did not know I would beat cancer, I did not know what was ahead of me apart from the first fight with cancer which was hard enough. That was my only comparrisum to what I would face. This is an honest blog as I believe they all have been, but this one bears my heart and soul.

You see I have never thought of depression as a desease, I was prescribed medication for it some 17 years ago after marrying my first wife the year before and going through divorce a year later. I never took the medication. Some people chose to side with my ex wife. Since then I have chosen to walk a depression free path, thinking it is by my very choices that kept it all at bay. By my positive spirit in effect, dispersing the perhaps ever beating depression. That I was shining a light of happiness in a dark place which some call depression. Amazing isn’t it that although these thoughts are public, only a few read the very depths of my thoughts, either because they are worried what people will think (I don’t) or they want to learn what it’s like to face such demons, or perhaps it’s because you yourself have accepted that your doctor has told you your depressed and want to know if there is a way out.

Like with anything, only you are your way out, cancer is Evil and I suffer daily to maintain a positive outlook. (Why suffer) ? Because only you can change what you choose to think, only you can choose to say positive things, and be a positive person believing in a positive outcome.

For me at the beginning of my blog I believed without seeing that I would beat cancer. One person said last week my blog is religious because it’s about faith. The word faith means ‘To believe without seeing’ on all American notes are the words “in God we trust” so believing by faith God is real even though he has not been seen. Well myself personally, I believe we see God in everything but that’s a whole new blog altogether. So for me personally I believe I choose every day not to be depressed yet a doctor told me I was 17 years ago.

When we fall we can collapse in a heap or get up, when we get up we are further ahead than we were before. A man called Ian Samuel taught me that some 24 years ago. It’s up to us to move forwards, it’s up to us to chose to move from where we are today. YOUR LIFE IS IN YOUR HANDS! Don’t waste what you have. Look at my poetry, I was told when I wrote heart of the ocean when I was 27 it was rubbish so I did not persue it. Now I don’t do it for anyone else just me, and I am finding others like it so I am choosing to carry on. Please choose to carry on, you have so much more to give the world and you won’t know what that is unless you follow your heart.

Enjoy finding out,

Fonz

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Why I share my storey.

15 Tuesday Sep 2015

Posted by fonzandcancer in Uncategorized

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battle, cancer, chemo, chemotheropy, giving, hope, lost, love, war, winning., won

Morning, how are you today? It’s a funny old place to find yourself, having a storey to tell. My mind is full of gratitude for the NHS. My heart is full of gratefulness to have beaten cancer again, I feel a love towards others fighting. My heart is to help other people get checked out and hope they get into remission as well. Everyone that has faced cancer, are some of the bravest people on earth. Pioneers emerge like “Steve Prescott” Although Steve lost his life after the pioneering surgery, his name will live on because he was willing to put himself under the knife, in turn paving the way for others lives to be saved. I love hearing about people like that, people that have a giving heart. I was getting a take away yesterday, and the LEP was there on the counter. With our storey in it, the man said to me “that’s you isn’t it” “how much you get for doing that” he said.

It was like someone had stuck a pin in me, I did not even think of making money out of the article. Only that I hoped a life would be saved. That’s all I want, for others to exceed the life expectancy by stepping forwards, fighting and winning. No one but the cancer sufferer knows how hard cancer is, and like my dear friend at the Indian said ” I didn’t know what chemo was until my dad had it” it’s time for unity. Time for us all to pull together no matter what our religious beliefs. It’s time to stand together, to work together to help more people choose to beat cancer.

It is a choice after all, after diagnosis the person chooses to take what life is left for them or to have the gruling treatment. Obviously I chose to be treated and WON, I am not in persute of financial gain. Just the look on a persons face that says “I won” you see when you have won many battles to eventually win the WAR. It consumes you, it energises you to want that for others. I want to encourage you today, what ever your facing. That you have what you have, so use it to benefit someone else. Give without wanting anything in return. You will be blessed but maybe not with a new Ferrari. Maybe it’s life with out cancer will be your gift, you won’t find out unless you stretch out your arm to help someone else.

Of course there will always be that person that thinks about how much. But remember that’s how that persons brain works, we learn to be compassionate. Then we choose to be compassionate or not, allot of people are driven by money. I was guilty of it to before I realised that no matter what life is the most precious gift of all. What will you do with yours?