In our house we don’t celebrate Halmark day, the day that was made up by a card company to gain sales on a day that is 8 weeks after Christmas and 6 weeks before Easter. Halmark called this day Valentine’s Day. Now I suppose it’s great for the young ones that don’t know how to tell some one of their fondness for them. But it’s no secret that I love my wife, we have after all been in love for 12 years nearly. Over a hundred people came to our wedding, they all know we love each other to. So there is no secret Valentine here. I may very well buy her some roses when they are half price tomorrow though, that way Valentine’s Day has given me something.
I was laughing to myself as I saw married men with children buying flowers for their wives, at the inflated prices. Does it really matter, would it not be better to buy flowers because you want to, rather than on a day that your feel forced to because of a date. I hold my wife every single day and tell her she is appreciated and loved by me. I want her to feel wanted and loved everyday. She knows how I work, I can’t stand feeling I have an obligation to do, forced to do. I do because I want to do.
I feel sorry for the people that are made to feel awkward because they did not follow the expectations of society. I do not feel awkward in any way. Love should be shown everyday not just on Valentine’s Day. I mean would the money not be better spent on something other than flowers on 14th of Feb. Or like me will you buy flowers if they are cheap enough after the shops have made the shops have made their money from the folk that paid the inflated prices.
Surely loving because you want to is better than feeling you have to show it. As I said I think it has its place for youngsters who have a secret admiration for someone and don’t know how to break the ice. But not for us marrieds.
I look forward to the varied responses the world has to my thoughts in this post. Oh and happy Sunday.
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Prior-01 said:
Fully agree on so many angles with you! Except our flowers are sometimes even more than half off ! But seriously – this holiday seems more for those who are dating or for singles – I know so many single people who go and treat themselves to a goody – or friend to friend – anyhow / my hubs and I do what works for us but do you know my least favorite holiday is Christmas for this very hallmark kinda reason!
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fonzandcancer said:
U hit the nail on the head, as long as you know what works for you… š
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Prior-01 said:
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C.S. Wilde said:
You pretty much said it all.
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fonzandcancer said:
Praise indeed.. š
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fonzandcancer said:
No one will comment if they have been married for 10 years and still expect flowers though…
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culbia said:
Amen to all
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Marie Abanga said:
I used to love that Day when my guy will take me to the beach and I’ll be proud to be a couple among others who could afford the outing. Back in Cameroon, going to the Beach/ movies etc is considered luxury. But I have never loved cards which I consider poor tree barks, and flowers should be natural not on any specific day. I mean even when married and later on, I don’t do š and do the least fuss birthday š. I tell my boys love all year round is better than show on such and such a day. But helas, who knows if some even in their 40s ++ still twinkle like those teens or 20 somethings ..
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fonzandcancer said:
I know I love my wife, and I do still twin kale as you call it. But I have to say love feels different the older I get. The love of a 47 yr old is far different to a 27 yr old that’s for sure. š
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jacquelineobyikocha said:
Valentine has existed for a very long time way before all the commercialization and it’s really up to people to choose to express their appreciations specially on that day. I believe in showing people who I care about such care all year round, but if I am in the mood to have some fun then I decide what I want to do not because it’s what anyone feels that I should do at that point in time.
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Anne Glenister said:
I agree and disagree with Valentines Day. Yes it’s very commercial and people make a lot of money out of cards and over inflated flower costs. BUT, I love flowers and I was given a beautiful bouquet of flowers and a card with lovely words written in it today from Dave. I know he loves me, but it iwas rather nice to be given these flowers, which yes, can be given at any other time. X šš
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Lili said:
It has become such a tradition that people feel pressured. Can u imagine Christmas with it a Christmas tree? (For those who celebrate it). It’s kind of the same thing I Guess.
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Lili said:
*without a Christmas tree
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fonzandcancer said:
I knew what you meant. š
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fonzandcancer said:
Very good point. X
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Lili said:
I Guess it depends on the woman’s expectations š the partner should know her best š
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fonzandcancer said:
Do you think a partner should expect from the other as you say?
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Lili said:
Personally we don’t celebrate Valentine’s Day, from the very beginning of our relationship. But I Guess for some, the expectation is there, especially if they started out with such celebration of this day š whether a partner should expect or not, I would say… It’s not wrong to expect š maybe she just needed to feel special. People have different love language š and if she feels loved to get flowers on Valentine’s Day then why not š
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looneybitch said:
Oh you old romantic you….:-)
Just to say that I think, only think, that Valentine Day has been around for a lot longer than Hallmark cards….who are only marketing an opportunity as opposed to inventing an event. The sentiment is lovely… whether you buy a card or not.
Happy Valentines Day to everyone
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fonzandcancer said:
I agree mostly….
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Kim Richardson said:
Totally agree with you, Mark. I always thought that flowers, given for no reason, on a day that wasn’t particularly noteworthy, meant so much more. Because they were given “just because”, rather than out of obligation. Happy Sunday to you & yours š
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fonzandcancer said:
It will be nearly over for you Kim, I hope you had a great day. š
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Kim Richardson said:
Yep, getting close. 9:30pm here now. Not a bad day. Went to the movies to see Deadpool with some friends.
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fonzandcancer said:
Any good?
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Kim Richardson said:
Hmm. I’m a bit undecided. It wasn’t bad. It was a mix of comedy & action. It was entertaining but I wasn’t having fits of laughter š
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fonzandcancer said:
I love to belly laugh if it’s a comedy.. š
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Kim Richardson said:
So do I. There’s not too many that reduce me to hysterics though. I love those type of funny moments that when you think about them later, you get the giggles. As in, the uncontrollable giggles that don’t stop š
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fonzandcancer said:
Me to we have had those times together… Often… Sometimes with few words… š
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Kim Richardson said:
Those are the best times!
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